Live to be appropriate in the time and place of your living. "Appropriate" is the right combination of what is needed in the moment and what is allowed by the moment. And if you are going to err, err on the side of what is needed. Dance on the boundary line of what is allowed in every situation as it arises. Disappoint the routine, surprise the expected, flirt with the unheard of, have nothing to do with the common and the ordinary. Show your stuff in an appropriate kind of way. Don't rub it in. Don't be flamboyant and outlandish. Don't flaunt the exhibition of YOU. Don't overdo it. But don't hide your light under a basket either. Say what is yours to say. Do what is yours to do. Ask the questions that beg to be asked. Say the things that cry out to be said. In an appropriate to the occasion kind of way. And smile as you do it. Or laugh. In an appropriate to the occasion kind of way. When in doubt about what "appropriate" is, take a chance. Appropriately.
The truth of the moment waits to be revealed in every moment to those with eyes to see, ears to hear, and a heart to understand. That is to say, to those who make inquiries, asking all of the questions that beg to be asked, and saying all of the things that cry out to be said-- and being intently aware of it all. It is an exhausting process to know the truth, and painful-- because it is not what we want it to be, and so the phrase, made popular by Col. Nathan R. Jessup in the movie A Few Good Men, "You can't handle the truth!" The truth asks hard things of us, forcing us to come to grips with the truth that the way things are is not the way we want things to be, and requiring us to make a choice, whether to live a lie that we want to believe, or embrace the truth that means giving up what we want. This is the conflict at the heart of all of our problems. We will not grow up and deal with the way things are. We will wrap ourselves in thick layers of denial, diversion, dismissal, distraction, escape and rejection in order to live out our life in a world of fantasy and illusion/delusion in order to avoid dying to our wants/desires and living in sync with the way things actually are. That is the story of humankind from the beginning until now. And it is up to us to not allow it to be our story. We begin to do that by getting to the truth of the next moment and seeing where it goes, committed to living truthfully all the way to our very last breath-- even though it means dying to our wants and wishes in every moment all along the way.