We are not free to be anybody, to do anything. We are bound to our genetic make-up, to our nature and our traits--our virtues, our specialties, our knacks and proclivities-- our particular ways of seeing/doing/being. That simplifies things for us. We can stop thinking we should be more like someone else than we are, and start thinking about who we are and how to be more like that in the time left for living. I am more like a hermit (Carl Jung said that a hermit is a primitive person who trusts their unconscious) than like a "hale fellow well-met." More inward than outward, and am not attracted to crowds and noise. The silence of woods and streams comforts my soul. So find your pace and your rhythm, your direction and you way, and enjoy being who you are, when you are, where you are, how you are, all the days of your life!