I'm glad I've been there (Three times, I think, maybe four), I'll never be back, and that is fine. It is called "Squaring yourself up with the way things are." I did not have me, or anyone like me, for a father, and even so, I've made it this far, and that is fine. If I could talk to me as I was then, I would tell myself, "Don't think, SEE! LISTEN! FEEL! (Not emotionally, but, Yes, No, and Uh-oh). "Distance yourself from fear and desire. Walk away from what you desire, walk into what you fear. The rest you can figure out on your own." I wish I had had someone like me to talk with all the way from start to finish. That would have made all the difference-- and it has made all the difference since I started talking to me, and inviting you to listen in, and that was early-on in adulthood. Could have used it in adolescence. The right person to talk to in adolescence would have been really fine.