January 31-A, 2023

Sparks Lane Panorama 02-28-2014 Oil Paint Rendered — Cades Cove, Great Smoky Mountains National Park, Townsend, Tennessee
People talk all the time using words
to say what they mean. 
Words are useless when it comes to meaning.
Meaning is among the most personal of things.
Coffee doesn't mean to you what it means to me,
and vice versa around the room.
Nothing does.
Meaning is ours alone.
And we cannot say what we mean.

Everybody says, "I love you,"
but what do they mean?
Ask them to show you.
And you show them.
How would you demonstrate love?

Listening is my favorite way.
I'll show you I love you 
by listening to you.
Attending you.
Seeing you.

"I SEE YOU!"--
Jack Nicholson's line to Helen Hunt
in 1997's "As Good As It Gets"
is as good as any movie line delivered.
Nailed it.

Love is seeing, hearing, knowing.
Without being intentional about it,
being natural about it,
spontaneous about it,
not even thinking about it,
just seeing, hearing, knowing...

Being with whomever we are with
in loving ways
entails seeing, hearing, knowing.

None of which can be explained,
defined, told, said.

"The Tao that can be said, told, explained
is not the eternal Tao."

"Those who know don't say.
Those who say, don't know."

The best talking is showing not saying.
Show kindness. 
Show compassion.
Show allegiance.

Show people what you mean.
Ask them to show you what they mean.

Revolutionize communication!


Published by jimwdollar

I'm retired, and still finding my way--but now, I don't have to pretend that I know what I'm doing. I retired after 40.5 years as a minister in the Presbyterian Church USA, serving churches in Louisiana, Mississippi and North Carolina. I graduated from Austin Presbyterian Theological Seminary, in Austin, Texas, and Northwestern State University in Natchitoches, Louisiana. My wife, Judy, and I have three daughters and five granddaughters within about twenty minutes from where we live--and are enjoying our retirement as much as we have ever enjoyed anything.

2 thoughts on “January 31-A, 2023

  1. Jim! Back on the receiving end of your posts! Listening is a developed skill that does require Love as its basis. Accepting another, as is, and Listening, is truly a demonstration of Love! ✌️🙏💕

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