We have what it takes to rise to any occasion and do what needs to be done in each situation as it arises. The problem is that we don't want to. We don't want to is our only problem. If we only wanted to do whatever is asked of us, we would have no problems. What do you care about? What living thing do you care about? We can't BS ourselves, so be deeply honest/truthful here. What do you pretend to care about that you don't actually care about? How often does caring about what you care about ask/require you to do what you do not want to do? If you can override yourself in this situation, you can override yourself in any situation that you care about. Now, we are down to caring about the situations that arise in a day, and caring about bringing your best to bear upon those situations, knowing that the way we live in our situations has the most impact for good or ill on the conditions and circumstances of our life. So, in a rational/logical way, we can see the importance of caring about our situations to the point of doing whatever is called for, whether or not we want to. Now it is only a matter of transferring this over to our emotional/psychological response to what our life is asking/requiring of us. Do the work! Make your life matter! Situation by situation!