The conditions and circumstances of our life impose themselves upon us against our will and require us to make concessions and accommodations appropriate to the occasion from birth to death. The water that falls in my backyard flows roughly from south to north. The water that falls in my front yard flows roughly from north to south. And my yard is less than 1/4 acre, with just enough elevation for me to be able to watch the water without swimming in it. And I have no control in the matter. Consider all of the things in your life that affect/effect your life over which you have no control. We do not get to choose our choices, and therein lies the rub. Being in accord with-- living aligned with-- the Tao, with the flow of life and being, means being able to take "NO!" for an answer, and go on about our business as best we can, to the extent that we are able, with an outlook/attitude/manner/style that remains congenial and good-spirited, balanced and harmonious, while we are being tossed about by "the heaving waves of the wine-dark sea." Being able to take "NO!" for an answer means being able to say "YES!" to life just as it is. Without judgment, expectation, opinion, grousing and complaining. "YES!" to life just as it is is the primary requirement for a life well-lived, in accord and aligned with, the Tao of life and being. We get plenty of practice. There is no reason for not having this down by now. And we have no excuse for not doing better. Buck up! Carry on! No one gets it like they want it to be for long, if at all.