"By the book" is no way to run a world, or a life. "Throw away the book" and allow your deep sense/feel for what needs to be done here/now guide you on your path. And when it turns out that you were wrong, allow your deep sense/feel for what needs to be done here/now guide you on your path. Intuition and instinct are not foolproof. Both tell us that the world is flat and the sun goes around the earth. That does not negate the value of intuition and instinct. When we do not know what we are doing, or what to do, we keep making our best guess until things click into place, always trusting our felt-sense of what is called for, of what needs to happen. Feeling what needs to happen is not the same as thinking what needs to happen. "When in doubt, go by the book," is not as reliable as "When in doubt, trust your feelings." And keep trusting your feelings in light of what happens when you do, and making adjustments as necessary all along the way.