Getting what we want and having our way are the hallmarks of success and happiness. We know nothing of what we ought to want. We just want what we want as though wanting knows. The story goes that the tribe of Delaware Indians who traded Long Island for shiny beads and silver mirrors got what they wanted. We trade our life for goods and services of about the same value, thinking what a bargain we got, refusing to wake up to the emptiness of it all, wanting more on top of more to take our mind off the futility of living in the hamster cage. There are alternatives to wanting, having, owning, possessing, striving, attaining, grasping, forcing... Looking/seeing, listening/hearing, for starters. The right kind of emptiness, stillness, silence. Integrity, sincerity, spontaneity. Spirit, energy, vitality. Our essential nature, our innate virtues. Balance and harmony. Compassion and kindness. Relishing the wonder of a cup of coffee and good company. Without contrivance or deceit. Just being "as one thus come." And letting that be enough.