We can live to get our way and we can live to do what needs to be done, and needs us to do it, with the gifts of our essential nature and innate virtues-- even though that would interfere with getting our way. We can live with our good in mind, and we can live with the good of the situation as a whole in mind. Whose good is the good we call good? How good is the good we call good? Who besides us says it is good? We have to be able to look ourselves in the eye. Integrity and sincerity demand it. Balance and harmony require it. Start there. Let everything else fall into place around that. Balance and harmony. Integrity and sincerity. The foundation of a good life.