Trials and tribulations are not to be taken more seriously than they deserve. I am not aware of a book better than "Drive Yourself Sane," by Susan and Bruce Kodish, now in its 3rd edition, for making out what's what, keeping things in their place, and speaking accurately (even to ourselves) about them. Seeing our situation-- and each situation as it arises-- as it is is the most important step in knowing what to do about it, in response to it. And that is the most important step in maintaining our balance and harmony as we do what needs to be done within the situation for the good of the situation and all sentient beings. Seeing/hearing is knowing is doing, with integrity and sincerity, naturally, spontaneously, truthfully, here/now in each moment that comes along. Neither Jesus nor the Buddha could do better than that. And it is a possibility for each of us all our life long. Why wait to start being who/what our life needs us to be, when, where and how it needs us to be? Seeing clearly and responding appropriately to what is happening in each situation as it arises is the sine non qua of living well. Why have any other goal in life?