The basic life strategy is not to avoid the pitfalls. It is to see what we are doing and what needs to be done in each situation as it arises, and live to be what the situation needs us to be with sincerity and integrity, in the service of our original nature and the innate virtues that come loaded in our DNA. And when we step into a pitfall, to be aware of what led up to it and what we could have done to avoid it, and see what it has to show us about who we are and how we are going about our life. Joseph Campbell said, "Where we stumble and fall, that is where the treasure lies. Start digging!" Our life is a series of events and experiences which require us to change our mind about what is important all along the way. We grow up against our will, and our life is designed to show us where the growing places are. If it weren't for the pitfalls, we would be insufferable! We learn kindness, compassion and humility from what our life has to teach us, and we are better people for learning our way through our life.