When we are transparent to ourselves, we are also transparent to transcendence. And it is apparent to everyone. No kidding. There is nothing to it. And we get nothing out of it. Except the joy of being transparent to ourselves, and being just fine with who we are.
We have no right to expect things to be different than they are. Our place is to respond to things just as they are in ways appropriate to the occasion. What is happening? What is called for? What needs to be done here and now? Adjustment and accommodation, Kid. Adjustment and accommodation. We are always at the point of responding to our circumstances in ways that balance the contradictions, promote healing, serve peace, and restore harmony-- by bringing what is needed to life in the moment of our living and being the right touch at the right time, in the right place, and the right way. We do this by serving the Way without forcing our way-- and walking away when nothing can be done, letting nature take its course. If you are married to an alcoholic, or in an abusive relationship, "You have to know when to walk away, know when to run," and shut the door on the way out.