What we can hear at any point in our life is not commensurate with what we need to hear. We always need to hear more than we are able to hear because of our wants, dreams, ambitions, desires, interests, expectations, agendas, opinions, plans, hopes, fears, assumptions, inferences, etc. We get in--and stay in--our own way. "We are our own worst enemy" (Common folk-observation). We have no right to expect things to be different than they are. Yet many forms of depression are grounded on the ever-present reality of unfounded expectations. Growing up is the solution to all of our troubles today. Growing up is coming to terms with, "This is the way things are, and this is what I can do about it, and that's that." We want more than we can have, and therein lies the problem. Adjusting ourselves to the reality of how things are and what can be done about it, is the sine qua non of maturity. And maturation is the name of the path tread by those on The Hero's Journey. Growing up is all there is to it. Is what it is all about. Is the ultimate goal of being alive. When we can't think of anything else to do, there is always growing up some more again. When we have nowhere to turn, we can always turn to the tasks of development, and grow up some more again. The tasks of development get practically no press whatsoever. It's all about having/getting what we want. What we want is always coming to grief on the rocky shoals of what we can have. We can always want more than we can have. We always need to hear more than we are able to hear. What we are able to hear is always restricted by what we want to hear. Knowing what we want to hear, and being aware of the discrepancy, discordance, disparity between what we want to hear and what we need to hear-- what the situation demands/requires us to hear-- is the sit-me-down-shut-me-up-and- open-my-eyes-to-the-truth-of-my-situation- requirement for hearing what we need to hear, and, yes, growing up some more again. The primary tool/weapon/grace of The Hero's Journey is knowing what we want to hear and how that is preventing us from hearing what we need so hear-- and using the Holy Trinity For The Return To (and Maintenance of) Balance And Harmony: Emptiness, Stillness and Silence, in order to hear what we are hearing and what we need to hear instead. Those who can hear this, can hear what else, what all, they need to hear in each situation as it arises. Those who cannot, cannot. And that makes this the fulcrum separating those who can hear from those who cannot hear, and setting the tone for the rest of our lives, for better and for worse. For worst, actually.