We settle ourselves into our life just as it is, and live there just as we are. And that is all there is to it. So, of course, we will have nothing to do with it! "NO!" we say, "NOT THIS! THAT!!!" And we are off into contention, and confrontation, and competition, and disgust, and dismay, and dissatisfaction... We live forcing this, resisting that, insisting on that over there appalled and undone that things are as they are, wondering why it has to be the way we require it to be. We reduce the complexity, and diminish the noise, by demanding less and accepting more. But that sounds like giving in, like surrender, like capitulation, and we want what we want right NOW! AND WE ARE GOING TO HAVE IT!!! So, those who see what's what, step back, disengage, untangle themselves from the way it is being done about them, and let things be as they are, as they go about doing what is theirs to do within the context and circumstances of their life just as it is. And that is exactly what they would do if things were more like they ought to be than they will ever be. And, that's all there is to it.
There is nothing (ever) wrong with us that a perspective shift wouldn't fix. Attitude adjustments are the first things to undertake in every transition point that comes our way. And that comes down to changing our mind about what is important. Any time you experience negative emotional reactions to your experience, change your mind about what is important, and go on about your business. But, what if it IS important, you say? Change your mind about the level of importance and go on about your business. Adjustment and accommodation, Kid. Adjustment and accommodation. Our business is doing what we can to do what needs to be done in each situation as it arises. After that, it is adjustment and accommodation. And focusing our attention and effort on what needs to be done as the situation develops around us, creating new situations entirely, with more things to adjust to and accommodate. We change our mind about what's important and take care of business throughout the day every day. And do it again tomorrow.