The phrase, "a meeting of the minds" suggests the possibility of a communion of comprehension, realization, recognition, understanding, oneness, wholeness, confirmation, union, goodwill... Which hinges on trust, openness and willingness to receive well the other-- with no agenda for the other-- but with a common agenda of mutual benevolence, respect, kindness, compassion and generosity. AA meetings and sports teams create atmospheres where meetings of the minds can take place on a regular, recurring basis, built around common goals and mutual trust, and the communal experience often stays with the participants long after their time together ends. Friendships, family connections and psychotherapy relationships can foster this sense of mutuality and oneness, and it exists as a possibility for all of us who are able to be present, open and receptive to others-- without anything to gain or lose, and with an interest in sharing our interests and exploring those of someone else. How long has it been? How long must it be?
"Where do you turn when you have nowhere to turn?" Joseph Campbell said the answer to that question tells you what your grounding/center/core myth is. I go to the silence. Into the silence. And wait for instructions. For guidance. For direction. I believe in the silence. I hail from the silence, and am headed back to the silence. The silence is home. Home for my soul. Home of my soul. I am a child of the silence. These words? They are gifts from the silence. The silence is all we need. Is everything we need. It is with us always, to the end of our days, and beyond. If you ever miss me, you can find me in the silence. It's all there, waiting. It's all the consolation I know of. All the comfort I need. We all find our way there eventually-- and we take our place in the company of our kin, our kind, the bearers of grace and mercy everlasting, at the heart of life and being, the source of all that is, or has been, or will be.
We cannot hurry growing up, but we can postpone it indefinitely, and by doing so, we fail to live our life. We only go through the motions of living, creating pain by avoiding pain. That's the way it works with pain. "We meet our pain on the road we take to escape it." Following the age-old Law of Life by doing what needs to be done when it needs to be done, the way it needs to be done, because it needs to be done, in each situation as it arises, no matter what will grow us up as quickly as we can grow up-- but the journey is never finished, and old people feel as though they are only beginning the process. Our life is geared to growing us up, and each stage of the developmental process has its own way of highlighting the insufficiencies in our perspective and attitude in calling us to take the next step along the way. So, we stand ourselves up and step ourselves forward to meet what is coming through the door-- without expectation or opinion-- in doing what the moment calls for with the gifts/daemon/virtues/specialties that are ours to serve and to share throughout each day to the end of our days.