Democracy is a contradiction in terms. Everything is. Taoism is the only way of living I know that admits it upfront: "The Tao that can be said/defined/told is not the eternal Tao." "We cannot say what we know and what we can say is too contradictory to be helpful, but we will say that Yin and Yang are two contrary things bound together by their oneness, as is everything in the cosmos. See? Told you!" Too much of a good thing is a bad thing. Too much of a bad thing is a good thing, except that it isn't woopee-wonderful-good, it is merely backing-away-from-the-edge-good, which is really good for bad. The best we can hope be is fair-to-middling. We live well when we live from the middle. The middle way between the extremes is the preferred way. Balance and harmony are aware of the contradictions, and live from the center of them all. Keep an eye on your balance and harmony. Know what the forces of destabilization are in your life. Learn to sense when things are shifting toward the extremes, and move back to the center. I cannot imagine too much of the right kind of silence ever being a problem, because it automatically moves us toward the right kind of conversations and the right kind of relationships. The right kind of silence is a stabilizing force moving us into right relationship with ourselves, our life and other people. People who know how to be quiet know all they need to find what they need to be what is needed in each situation as it arises. Seek the center! Means to seek the silence! And to listen/look for the guidance that arises from within in living from the center and maintaining our balance and harmony amid growing tendencies pushing us toward the extremes from all sides.
We get up and meet the day without expectation or judgment/opinion, and do what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, the way it needs to be done, and see where it goes. The day provides its own direction. Things happen that turn us toward one thing and away from other things. Something beckons, winks at us, calls our name. Each day has its own rhythm and way of being. We can't be sure of what it will be time for next. It is filled with mini-adventures all its own. Our days have the potential of being wonderlands inviting exploration and discovery for those with eyes to look and see, and a willingness to do what the moment asks of us. To rule out spontaneity is to risk dullness, shallowness and superficiality all day long.
Duality is everywhere. It is said, "Thou Art That" because there is a Thou and there is a That. If there were no duality, there would be no reason to say Thou and That are one. Distinctions are necessary for life to go on. Male and female, Yin and Yang, daylight and dark... It is our place to reconcile the contradictions and the dichotomies. To enable oneness from two-ness, but even there it is the oneness of two people dancing together. They dance as one, but they are not one. "The strings of a harp are separate, though they vibrate with the same music, and the pillars of a temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the pine grow not in each other's shadow" (Kabril Gibran). It is important to maintain an appropriate distance between the Thou and the That, else we merge into a oneness like that of the moth with the flame.