Our motives stem from our desires and fears. From what we want and don't want. Look around. We could do better with different reasons for doing what we do, and do not. Reasons that have nothing to do with our advantage, gain, advancement, benefit, pleasure or profit. There are two approaches to take in finding new reasons for doing what we do. Here is the first: Sit still and be quiet, watching what goes through your mind. You are waiting for something to arise that you are not responsible for. You don't think it, remember it, imagine it. It isn't logical or reasonable, and comes out of nowhere. Suddenly, it is just there. You will know it when it happens. Wait. Watching. When it happens, decide what to do about it. What is it asking of you? What is it calling for? What are you going to do about it? The other approach is to simply observe each situation as it arises, looking for what needs to happen there. What is called for? Do it. To the best of your ability, with what you have to offer from the gifts, talents, traits, virtues, skills, abilities, interests, etc. that come with you from the womb. For no reason other than it needs to be done. If you begin living from these two approaches to doing what you do, you will transform your relationship to your life, by seeking to serve something beyond your own interests and advantage. And it will improve the world.
Being in the moment is the most important place to be, and we hardly ever spend any time there. We are forever thinking about where we have been, or where we would like to be, or what we hate about our life, and wishing things were different somehow-- desiring, fearing, resenting, dreading, longing for everything. Jon Kabat-Zinn offers the best practice regimen I know of, with his YouTube videos (The shortest ones first) about being here, now. Since there is really nowhere else to be, why not actually do what it takes to be here, now? Seeing what is with us here, now, and what is happening, and what is trying to happen, and what is called for, and how we might help the process by doing what needs to be done right here, right now, because it needs to be done and not to achieve anything, or acquire anything, or accomplish anything beyond being here, now in ways beneficial to here, now because that is what we are for, and exactly where we come in?