Everything starts with and flows from autonomy. You have to have the right and the freedom to be who you are, living out of your own sense of direction and purpose, being true to your original nature and the innate virtues that are yours at birth. You have to have the right and the freedom of your own "Yes" and "No." That means you have to have access to your own "Yes" and "No." They do not come from your head. They come from your heart-- from your body. You have to have the autonomy, the right and the freedom, to live from your own body-mind. Even your brain-mind (your thinking-mind) has to take the back seat to your body-mind (your feeling/sensing-mind). How close is your relationship with your body-mind? How often to you consciously consult your body-mind? How often does your brain-mind ask your body-mind, "Is this 'Yes' or 'No'?"? The first step to freedom is to know what your body-mind knows and to have the autonomy to take your orders for direction, purpose and action from your body-mind. Until we are free to live from our body-mind, we are not free at all. That's the first thing. Everything else flows from and falls into place around that.