We have to know what is required of us and be right about it. And do it. We are not free to do whatever we want with our life. We are obligated to live according to, aligned with, in accord with, our life's idea for itself. We have to know what we need to do to be living the life our life desires to live, and be right about it. And do it. The natural world has no choice. An oak tree lives, not only like an oak tree, but also like the particular tree it is among all the oak trees there are. Just so, there is the general us, and the specific, unique, us, and we have to be aligned with both the "us" on the species level, and on the individual-specific level. Who are WE individually, specifically? We don't get to choose that. We have to BE that! And, in order to BE that, we have to know what we know, and how that is at odds with what we wish/want to be so, and go with what we know is right for us no matter how far that might be from what we want to be right for us. Go with what we know to be so! It is the rule of the ages! It is also what the theme of Death and Resurrection speaks to throughout the ages. Jesus' prayer, "Thy will not mine be done," addresses this very thing. The "Thy" here is the life his life is requiring him to live. He is acknowledging that he is not free to choose the life he would prefer to live, but is bound/obligated/obliged to live the life that is his to live. No matter what. As it was with Jesus, so it is with each one of us. We are duty bound to live the life that needs us to live it. To know what we know that it is and to do it. No matter what.