The way that is the way is like snow melt finding its path to the sea. Like a baby knowing what to do with a nipple. Like a duckling taking to water. Like people naturally being who they are, liking what they like, laughing at what pleases them. It is not like following a recipe for snickerdoodle cookies or wondering how to tell when they are done. It is like making them for the 500th time without a recipe and taking them from the oven when it is time to do so, not because someone tells you but because you know when it's time. The way that is the way is like this in every situation as it arises. See if you can sense it, know it, feel it and act in response to it in ways appropriate to the occasion. Practice doing so in every situation. Become expert at reading the times and responding to them like ants finding the picnic.