If your life were your own to live, how would it be different from the way it is now? What can you do now, to begin moving in that direction? What symbolic act can you make in your life as a gesture declaring your intention to live into living your life as you know it needs to be lived? How might you add to those symbolic gestures in building/creating a "side life" that is yours alone alongside the life you are living? So that you walk two paths at the same time-- one to satisfy the demands you must serve and the other to serve as your secret life just for yourself that no one knows of but you. Become a double-agent! Work you into your life in clandestine ways! Be the you no one knows of! Listen to music they don't know about! Read books they don't see you reading! Take walks they don't go on with you! Develop your private side! Bring you to life on the sly! All as practice for when the kids leave home, or you can retire, or your mother-in-law finally kicks the bucket.