It comes down to attitude. Outlook. Viewpoint. Perception. Perspective. How we look limits what we see, casts what we see in a favorable or unfavorable light, tilts the table for or against, pro or con, my way or the highway. We tend to see in ways that favor what we favor and disfavor what we disfavor. We are how we look at what we see. Tell me what you see and how you see it and I will tell you who you are. So, start with a mirror, looking at you. What memories come to mind that cant you in a particular direction with regard to yourself. You remember the things that justify your view of things. That justify your view of you. When I ask you to "look at all there is about you," you won't scratch the surface. You will look at all the things you always see about you. You cannot see any of the things that do not support your view of yourself. The same thing applies to your view of everything and everyone in your life. You cannot see them for all of the things you already see about them that get in your way of seeing all there is to see. You cannot see all there is to see about anything. You see only your viewpoint, your perspective, your perception, your attitude, about everything you look at. Which prejudices your outlook. Now listen to me: We have to get beyond how we see things! We have to get ourselves out of the way! We have to look at everything as though we are seeing it for the first time! Here's the way to do that: Draw a mental frame around everything you look at. Set it apart from everything else. Memories, impressions, ideas, presumptions, assumptions, inferences, what you know and what you think you know... Filter all of it out, so that it is just you looking at what is in the frame as though you have never seen it, or anything like it, ever. Sit or stand before it in the silence of compassionate presence and allow it to show you who and what it is. Allow it to transition from "it" to "Thou." And go where you are being led.
What are your gifts? What do you do with them? That is all you need to know. What your gifts are, and what to do with them. Then it is just a matter of doing what needs to be done with the gifts that are yours to share.
Everything serves our destiny. It helps to tell ourselves that, no matter what happens. The things we don't think we need, the things we don't want, the things we hate with all our heart, not to mention our mind, our soul, our strength, our essence and our convenience, are serving our destiny, as surely as the things that please us to no end, stoke our gladness delight our mothers and fill our fathers with pride are. The question is: How are we going to respond to them? What are we going to do with them? Are we going to see them-- understand them, interpret them-- in ways that shift us off the Me And What I Want Track, and put us squarely in the center of My Destiny And How I Need To Align Myself With It Track? If everything that happens is serving our destiny, but we aren't, we have a problem. And our destiny has a problem. Our destiny's only problem ever is getting our whole-hearted cooperation. If we aren't living intentionally, deliberately, consciously in the moment-to-moment, situation-by-situation, day-by-day service of our destiny, we are striving uselessly to heave our own ideas for our life into place in order to live happily ever after. And creating hell for ourselves and everyone we know. We are swimming against the current, spitting into the wind, digging holes in solid granite, and free-falling into the void through one wasteland after another. Not so smart. Everything that happens to us serves our destiny by trying to wake us up. And it is going to keep trying to wake us up until we die. We can wake up or not. It is up to us. If we think maybe waking up might be a good idea, we start the work of waking up by asking ourselves, What is my life trying to tell me? And all of the questions that question stirs to life. Asking all of the questions that beg to be asked leads us to seeing things in ways we have never seen them before. And seeing things differently opens doors we never knew were there. And sooner than you may imagine, we find ourselves in the middle of the Promised Land, listening for what is being called for in each situation as it arises, without trying to impose our will for the situation on the situation, but looking for how we can be helpful in ways that need what we have to offer, situation-by-situation, moment-by-moment, throughout the time left for living. And our destiny takes care of itself. In a thoroughly magical, marvelous, mysterious, miraculous kind of way. Without us every doing anything more than what needs us to do it here and now kind of way.