Finding our way to The Way one situation at a time. I don't know how great it will be, but I expect it will be interesting, and I look forward to it going on past all reason because wonder is just that way. Are you coming or not?
Light Rays at Water Rock Knob Panorama 09/02/2014 Oil Paint Rendered — Blue Ridge Parkway, Maggie Valley, North Carolina
We are alone against
the conditions and circumstances
of our life,
and we have everything we need.
It comes tucked inside our DNA
alongside our heart and soul.
Every living thing
comes out of the egg or womb
ready to meet what is waiting for it.
Human beings are no exception.
We only have to learn to use
the equipment we have on hand
to know that it is so.
We are always selling ourselves short,
or down the river,
thinking we don't have anything
worth having,
when we only have to open ourselves
to what is there
to know that we are well-prepared
for life as it is to be lived.
We aren't better trained in using
the tools at our disposal
because our species traded its birthright
for the wonders of civilization
and its amazing distractions, diversions
and entertaining pastimes.
We are back to the Garden of Eden here,
with Adam and Eve opting for
what is delicious to the tongue
and a delight to the eyes
over what is good for life in the world
just as it is.
We are forever making trade-offs,
giving up this in order to have that,
without knowing the full repercussions
of what we are doing.
We do not get far
without knowing what's what
and what is called for
and what to do about it.
To find what we need,
we have to change the ratios between
thinking and using reason/logic/analytics,
and feeling using
listening/looking/seeing/hearing/knowing
on levels we cannot explain.
When we stop valuing instinct and intuition
in favor of rules and recipes,
we wander off the path,
lose the way,
and enter the wasteland of eternal discontent.
The way back to Eden is "right there,"
for those willing to "turn the light around,"
and begin looking within
for what everyone thinks is without,
peace, satisfaction, contentment and well-being.
Fading Dream Oil Paint Rendered 10/21/2022 — The flag is weeping because people who stand for the flag do not stand for what the flag stands for, and democracy is dying by their hand.
Living for the good times,
looking for the action--
any action will do--
is running from all that matters,
denying all that is threatening/disappointing/unwanted...
hiding from the truth that cannot be borne...
And it is the way of life
for a majority of the world's population.
And that isn't going to change.
Our work is to let that be
and tend this moment the way
this moment needs tending.
Don't keep score.
Don't figure the odds.
Don't care what your chances are,
just do the work of minding the moment
and doing what is called for
in each situation as it arises,
no matter what,
following the adage,
"Do what is good
whether it does any good or not!"
Be true to your original nature
and to the innate virtues/character
that are yours from birth,
and exhibit "the face that was yours
before you were born."
That is all that is asked of us,
and is well within the reach of all of us.
So, why hold anything back.
Why not live as though this life
is the only life we will ever live?
Why waste a day, an hour, the next minute?
"Get in there and do your thing,
and don't worry about the outcome!"
(Joseph Campbell's summation
of the Bahgavad Gita).
Price Lake 02 06/10/2018 Oil Paint Rendered — Blue Ridge Parkway, Blowing Rock, North Carolina
There are circumstances
which give rise to consequences,
which give rise to circumstances,
which give rise to consequences...
And that is all there is.
Our place in the process
is to realize and make conscious
how things are
and assist/direct the flow
toward balance and harmony
and away from chaos and mayhem--
toward the center
and away from the extremes.
Toward the still point
and away from ruthlessness and cruelty.
We bring heart to bear upon random devastation.
We introduce compassion and kindness
into the mix.
We ameliorate the mindlessness
of clashing rocks and crashing waves
within the drifting nothingness
of the wasteland and the void.
We shine the light of consciousness
and morality into the darkness
of universal savagery.
We create good and evil
by saying "Yes" to one thing
and "No" to another.
The humanness of humanity
is our propensity to work relentlessly
in the service of what is right,
"without hope,
without witness,
without reward"
(Steven Moffat),
anyway,
nevertheless,
even so--
because that is what needs to be done,
and that is what we do.
In each situation as it arises
for as long as situations arise
with circumstances producing consequences,
and consequences producing circumstances...
Pitcher Plants 02 04/30/2016 Oil Paint Rendered — Goodale State Park, Camden, South Carolina
Jesus was good for, "Love your neighbor as you love yourself."
"Love your enemy."
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
And, we think, "Okay. Got it."
Jesus was also good for, "Don't throw your pearls before swine,
or give dogs what is holy."
And, we think, "So, we don't love swine and dogs, right?"
Then Jesus tells the parable about the wise and foolish bridesmaids, where the foolish bridesmaids run out of oil
for their lamps, and the wise bridesmaids say, "We didn't take you to raise. You are responsible for yourselves! Go buy your own oil, we aren't sharing ours!"
And, we think, "So foolish people can be written off, right?"
And, it's hard to see how we are better off
for the directives Jesus hands out,
with one contradicting another,
not knowing what to do.
Then, Jesus clarifies all of the confusion
by asking, "Why don't you decide for yourselves
what is right?" And walks off into Galilee.
Chemung County Barn 03 Oil Paint Rendered –09/23/2015, Elmira, New York
How to find your life and live it
Three things are required: Emptiness, Silence, Stillness.
The right kind of emptiness is the emptiness between breaths. Inhale, exhale, pause for a count of five (synced to your heart beat/pulse rate if possible). Inhale, exhale, pause for a count of five… Do this for five rounds. At the end of the fifth round reflect on how empty you were between breaths, counting your heart beat. That’s the kind of emptiness we seek. No thoughts, no fear, no anxiety, no trying, no nothing. Be completely empty. If thoughts/feelings intrude, do not engage them but return to the emptiness by counting your heart beats. Develop the practice of emptiness and maintain that practice over the rest of your life.
Silence is silence, the quieter the better.
Stillness is stillness. Reduce the noise and complexity in your life increasingly over time. Say no to things that increase. noise and complexity. Focus on the things that are most meaningful to you. Honor those things, cherish those things. Do not set meaningful aside or postpone it to some future time because you ought to do something else that isn’t related to your meaningful relationships. You have to do a triage with meaning. Meaning can interfere with meaning and you have to make a sacrifice of meaning to serve meaning. “It is the way.” Tough up and do what needs to be done (Not what should be done, unless it needs to be done as well).
Within the emptiness, stillness and silence—which you will develop into a way of life along with your other responsibilities and duties (You will learn to walk two or more paths at the same time), you will find yourself naturally, spontaneously, listening to your heart, to your body (your stomach and your “bones”), and knowing what you know. Knowing what you know is essential knowing flowing from your original/essential nature and your innate virtues/character which form the ground of your being, and are your guide through life.
We do not find the way that is our way, or the life that is our life, by thinking about it, using reason and logic and analytics. We live our way into what is right for us by attending our feelings, and more to the point, by getting out of the way and responding to what is moving us, calling us, compelling us, eliciting action from us before we know what we are doing. We know what we know when we find ourselves doing what we need to be doing, and not before. It “just happens” of its own accord.
“Just happening” is how people in tune with the Way, with the Tao, experience their life. The Buddha was “one thus come.” Just as he was. When we live just as we are, we do spontaneously, naturally what is ours to do, so that the dancers dance, and the singers sing, and the poets poet, etc. all the way up and down the line.
And to get to the place of “just being who we are,” we have to get out of the way with our expectations and our opinions, and our desire to have everything spelled out like a itinerary on a trip to Italy, and allow our life to happen in its own time, by learning to wait like a cat waits for the bird, or like the beach waits for the wave.
So, my best advice for you is to change the subject in you head and give your hands, or your feet, or both, something to do that they love to do. Bring your body into the picture and allow. your. body to take over. your mind in a somatic kind of way, directing your living for an afternoon, or a morning, or a day if you can swing it, and just be with your body, and see where it takes you and what realizations you have by not trying to think your way into your future. Experiencing our body is an act of serving our balance and harmony. Doing what our body needs to do is the essential act in connecting to our essential nature and our innate virtues/character, and therein resides our future through all the situations and circumstances that will develop along the way
Horton House Ruins 06 05/14/2014 Oil Paint Rendered — Jekyll Island, Georgia
It is either going or coming,
or going and coming at the same time.
This is the flow of life.
My choice is to be going and coming at once.
Staying and leaving,
living to this and dying to that,
being one with the moment
as momentary as a moment can be,
alive to it all,
at one with it all,
enraptured by it all,
embracing everything,
holding onto nothing,
hello and good-bye in a single greeting,
life as it is
and will be
for as long as life is possible.
Consciousness is the trick.
Mindfulness does the work.
Knowing knows everything instantaneously,
accepts everything--
even the rejection of it all--
saying yes to no,
and letting it be because it is.
It is called walking on water,
riding the waves,
swimming joyfully
in the churning turmoil
of the wine-dark sea,
having the time of our life,
here and now,
no matter what,
why not?
It only takes seeing/accepting
to make it so,
in a "This is the way things are,
and this is what we can do about it,
and that's that," kind of way.
This becomes possible without
emotional attachment or abhorrence
to any outcome,
just seeing, just knowing, just acknowledging,
just being with how things are and also are,
moment to moment,
doing what is needed
and letting that be that,
letting things unfold as they will,
no matter what it may mean--
no matter what it means,
it means seeing what's what,
knowing what is called for
and doing what needs to be done here/now
again and again and again
throughout time.
The Sisyphean Task through the ages.
Enjoying what is to be enjoyed,
and doing what is to be done,
anyway, nevertheless, even so.
The Cascades 04/22/2011 Oil Paint Rendered — E.B. Jeffress Park, Blue Ridge Parkway
Living toward having preferences
without opinions or judgment
will keep us within
the normal distribution curve
of balance and harmony.
Having wants and desires
without having to have them
works the same way.
Being clear about the source
of our fear,
hatred,
anger,
sadness,
anxiety,
depression,
jealousy,
envy,
resentment,
etc.
will help restore balance and harmony
and ease us into the flow of life
as companions of the Way.
The Temple 09/27/2005 Oil Paint Rendered — Grand Canyon National Park, Arizona
Scattered and fragmented,
searching for a new pattern of life,
wondering where the toothpaste is hidden,
and the coffee filters...
waiting for it all to come back together.
Waking up in the uncertainties
of another world,
giving a different slant
to "The old has passed away,
behold, the new has come,"
on the morning
of the second day
of moving into a new house
in a different state,
and equating it
with the different world
Jesus was talking about
when he said,
"Come, follow me."
Orthodox churches cover the globe,
are preaching the gospel
of one who said,
"You have heard it said,
but I say unto you..."
and,
"Let the one who is guiltless
cast the first stone..."
Jesus was crucified for being
a heretic and a blasphemer
and a son of Satan.
Jesus was a rogue prophet
in a land ruled by
The Right Way To Do It,
with "It" being everything
under the sun.
Jesus is crucified again and again
by followers who say,
"Christ Is The Only Way To God!"
Making Jesus, of all people,
"The Right Way To Do It!"
Jesus said it best when he said,
"Why don't you decide for yourselves
what is right?"
Jesus is the way
of deciding for ourselves
what is right.
Just like Jesus did,
making plain the adage,
"The disciples must become
like the Master
in following no Master!"
We create our own religion
by finding for ourselves
what works and what does not work
in bringing ourselves forth
to meet the world
that changes overnight
every night,
leaving us to find the toothpaste,
or its equivalent,
again every day.
If you aren't up for that,
just sit back
and let someone else
tell you what is right for you.
Without ever asking,
"How would they know?"
Silhouettes 02 12/13/2015 Oil Paint Rendered — Kings Mountain State Park, Blacksburg, South Carolina
Living out of our own center
Keeps us grounded
in what is meaningful to us.
Meaning is our guiding light.
Follow the meaning!
Allowing meaning to lead us
keeps us connected to our core,
living out of our own center.
Allowing everything else
to revolve around that,
to fall into place around that.
Live to be a servant of meaning!
Seek out meaning!
Live for meaning!
Give meaning the central place in your life!
And turn the world around!
Eagle in Flight 02 11/05/2014 Oil Paint Rendered — James River, Richmond, Virginia
We have to find ways
of telling our story--
of saying out loud, or written out, what is so about us--
of saying what must be said.
We have to "go there."
This is the primary function
of psychotherapy,
allowing/forcing people to tell their story,
who they are,
what they are about,
what is theirs to do,
how well they have done/are doing it,
where they have been,
what has happened to them,
what has failed to happen to them,
what it all has meant to them,
what they feel like they have missed,
what has been the main theme of their life,
who have been the reliable people in their life,
what they keep doing that gets in their way,
what their dreams are about,
what their standout dreams have been,
why they think they do what they do--
and don't do what they don't do,
what their disappointments have been,
what they don't allow themselves to think about,
what they wish were different about their life,
what they wish they could change about themselves,
what are the meaningful things in their life,
what comes to mind when they sit in the silence,
what they are afraid of,
what their vulnerabilities are...
etc. forever.
Carl Jung said that all our problems exist
because people are not allowed to tell their story.
S.I Hayakawa said our problems disappear
once we become clear about what they are.
Tell your story,
over and over,
if only to yourself.
Because when you speak truthfully about anything
to other people,
they will change the subject
or tell you not to think about things like that,
or take what you are saying away from you
and make it about themselves,
commandeering the conversation.
No one listens to what people really have to say.
Start listening to other people,
and asking them the questions above,
and all the other questions that beg to be asked,
causing us to say the things that cry out to be said.
Transform the world by asking/saying.
One person at a time.
Starting with yourself.
Baxter Creek 01 10/30/2014 Oil Paint Rendered — Great Smoky Mountains National Park, Big Creek District, Waterville, North Carolina
This is the first day in the new house,
and every family member--
me, my wife and our three daughters--
are exhausted by the trauma
of buying/selling/moving.
And it has been the best experience
of my life.
Like the Cyclops was for Ulysses,
so moving 25 minutes and 13 miles away,
to be within a mile and a half from each daughter,
has been for me.
It asked hard things of me,
as a true trial and ordeal should do,
and it brought forth responses from me
that I was proud to have available
to meet the moments that had to be met.
I was asked to rise to occasion
after occasion--and am still
at that point in the process
of transitioning from one location
to another--
and found myself doing what was called for
time after time,
being amazed simultaneously with being stunned
by another unforeseen reality.
I look forward to things settling back into place,
and appreciate the growth in maturation
this journey has required and produced.
The new house is lovely,
and we will enjoy it immensely,
rejoicing in its company every day,
hoping we will never have to move again.
What a trip!
For 25 minutes and 13 miles!
Circumstances have a mind of their own.
We are awash upon a sea of circumstances.
A pandemic comes along,
global warming washes away the world,
fascism becomes a thing,
Republicans threaten to end civil rights
and health care...
and it all boiled up seemingly out of nowhere,
but there was a long build-up
of apparently unrelated events
that produced the crescendo of madness
sweeping over civilization,
carrying all of us into experiences
we did not ask for,
and calamities that were on no one's wish list.
The current state of affairs
call for the application
of age-old advice:
Stand pat.
Sit tight.
Remain focused on
integrity,
sincerity,
spontaneity,
emptiness,
stillness
and silence.
Ride it out.
Wait for a door to open, and walk through.
Thinking we can change,
avoid,
escape,
the the times that are upon us,
we miss the lesson of history:
We cannot change the world
to suit our idea of how the world
ought to be.
We can modify its impact on
ourselves and others,
soften its ruthlessness
with kindness and compassion,
and be what is needed
in each situation as it arises,
but expecting things to be
much different than they are
is to invite misery and dismay
to be constant companions.
We take what comes
and do our best to turn it
toward the good--
day after day,
all the way
to the other side.