Compromise and negotiation are the tools most useful in the transition process from duality to unity. Generally the process is co-opted in favor of disappearing the opposition, not negotiating and compromising with it. The heretics were burned at the stake, or tortured to death, or fed to the lions, hung, drowned, run out of town, excommunicated defrocked, forgot about, ignored, disappeared. Nope. One extreme has to bear the pain of the other extremes. One pole has to agonize over its incompatibility with the other poles. And work out a mutually satisfactory co-existence with each other. Blunting the points, smoothing the edges, accepting differences, honoring the existence of contrary ways of seeing things, assessing value, ascribing meaning and importance, and talking about what's what. Enemies are easy to make and difficult to abide. That's where the work comes in. Holding our ground and honoring the opposition's right to their ground, while working out the implications of mutually exclusive points of view. This is difficult enough among people with a high level of maturity. and out of the question with the level most people develop in their life. Immaturity makes community impossible. And that has been the kink in the hose through the ages. Which is to say that we are lucky things aren't more rocky than they are. And that has been the case from the start.