This present moment's relationship with the entirety of my life is seemingly inconsequential in its ordinariness, but the theme of "ordinary" played out in a string of such moments begins to weigh-in on the entirety of my life, and becomes quiet influential over time. Enough "ordinary days" become a quite "ordinary life." And, it turns out, that our life is not much different than the ordinariness of our individual days permit. Any one day, then, becomes a predictor of what the life as a whole will look like. And a collection of those days is an even better predictor of that life. This is reflected in Carl Jung's observation, "We are who we always have been, and who we will be." And is expressed in my sardonic inquiry, "How different can we be?" Our full potential for different-ness is expressed/experienced by our affinity for emptiness, stillness, silence and self-reflection. The realization of who we are is the best lever for changing who we are. And that realization is the aim of self-reflection. The more self-aware we are, the more likely we are to align ourselves with behavior that is a reflection of the ideal we embrace for how we should go about our life. The more often we catch ourselves acting out of accord with that ideal, the better our chances of changing our behavor to reflect the ideal. Emptiness, stillness and silence provide a wonderful atmosphere for exploring last night's dreams, reflecting on recent events and our relationships with others, in order to examine our behavior and get to the bottom of why we did what we did. The result of a lifetime of such revere is a life that is as different as it is possible for us to be. And it is not likely that we will be un-recognizably different, but will be, after all that soul searching, "just like ourselves." But the soul searching will not have been wasted, because knowing and being who we are, in being "just like ourselves," is an important element in being able to consciously/deliberately/intentionally be who we are in each situation as it arises in service to the good of the situation as a whole.
Ideally, we live our life in service to who we are (Our original nature), with the virtues (Gifts/daemon/genius/shtick/etc.) that are ours to use, in doing what is ours to do (The activities that bring us and our virtues together) and what needs to be done in the here/now of each situation as it arises all our life long. How close are you coming with that? Are you clear about your original nature? Are you clear about what your virtues are that you are to serve and share? Are you clear about the activities that bring you forth as the unique individual you are within the circumstances of your life? Are you clear about what needs to be done, when, where and how to do it the way it needs to be done? Are you living to incarnate yourself, your nature and your virtues, within "the flow of circumstances" that constitute your life? If not, what is keeping that from happening? How closely can you approximate it anyway, nevertheless, even so?