The "IT Factor" is having what it takes to do what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, the way it needs to be done, in each situation as it arises-- for the joy of doing it and the delight/satisfaction of having done it-- all our life long. IT is doing the right thing at the right time in the right place and the right way, time after time, no matter what, for as long as it takes. What keeps that from happening? Everybody can do IT. Everybody has done IT. No body does it consistently, reliably, dependably all of the time, no matter what. Why not? It is a combination of several factors. Wanting to/not wanting to is a big one. Feeling like it/not feeling like it is another. Having better things to do is another. Being out of sorts is another. "So what? Who cares? What difference does it/ will it make? Why try? What's the use? What's in it for us/me?" are others. And a pronounced lack of the necessary degree of maturity and grace is the biggest. Maturity and Grace are the key ingredients to everything. Every. Single. Thing. IT all comes down to Maturity and Grace. Without Maturity and Grace to sustain IT, IT is just a "flash in the pan." How smoothly and easily is your life going? Here is what determines/influences that: How smoothly and easily do you greet, receive and accept as "just the way it is" how smoothly and easily your life is going? It takes Maturity and Grace to smoothly and easily accept what is happening in each situation as it arises as the context within which we bring forth what is needed, when it is needed, the way it is needed, no matter what, time after time. The world, our life, is in the state they are in because of a glaring deficit in Maturity and Grace, around the globe. If you want to improve your life and the world, develop your capacity for Maturity and Grace in dealing with what meets you in each situation as it arises. In failing/refusing to do that, we are meeting ice with ice, and ice trumps everything. When we are iced in, we can only wait it out. Applying the warming combination of Maturity and Grace to the situation assists the thawing conditions that are necessary for things to be what they need to be in the service of life and being. If you are in a plight, a fix, a tight place, a mess, apply a healthy dose of Maturity and Grace as long as it takes to turn things around and bring smooth and easy into play.
What we want is irrelevant in comparison to what needs to be done. I don't care what we feel like doing, when the baby's diaper needs changing, change the baby's diaper! Find the equivalent to the baby's diaper in each situation as it arises and respond appropriately. That is all there is to it.
Understanding that we owe fealty to the moment, that we are to live in fidelity to the moment, that our liege loyalty and filial devotion belong to the moment-- to the here and now-- so that our overriding concern is for what needs to be done in each situation as it arises, puts things nicely in their place, and allows everything to fall out around our central, binding, allegiance through all of the times and places of our living, all our life long. It has nothing to do with what we want to happen or what we feel like doing. It has everything to do with what needs to happen, with what needs to be done. Get that down, and everything takes shape rather nicely, over time.
What we want is the source of all our difficulties. We can want what we have no business having. What has no business being. Fossil fuel emissions are a case in point, and the list is long. Living in the service of what we want at the expense of everything else has us where we are today. We live as though we owe fealty to what we want. Nothing could be further from the truth. What we want has to give way to what needs to happen, to what is called for, to what is crying out to be done, in each situation as it arises. Racism is another case in point, where the wants/desires of those in power have to be sat aside in homage to the right of all people to be honored with respect for who they are, and treated with dignity and equality in all matters great and small-- regardless of how that might impinge upon the wants/desires of those in power. Knowing what deserves/demands our fealty, and living in its service, no matter what, turns the world around, and swings things back into balance and harmony, and makes things as good as they can be for as long as life shall last.