We are all waiting for something. In the meantime, what? Here we are! Now what? What is called for? What needs to be done? Here and now? Those are our questions to answer in each situation as it arises. If we get it right, we have it made. Each situation is put a prelude to the next situation. The way we manage ourselves in each situation for the good of the situation leads to, composes, comprises, a life well-lived in every situation, and our good takes shape around that. We put too much emphasis on our good. Our good is a function of how well we take care of the good of every situation that comes along. And, if we strive to manipulate our situations in the service of our good-- as though we know what that is (We only know what we want, and assume that will be good for us, which, you will agree I'm sure, does not hold up under examination)-- we blow it all to hell, and end up with nothing good anywhere in our life. Living for the good of the situation by knowing and doing what needs to be done there, changes everything, particularly, us, and makes all things good. So, what is called for? What needs to be done, here and now? Being right about it, and doing it, makes all the difference.
What would it take for us to settle into our life just as it is, just as we are? Just doing what needs to be done here and now using the gifts of our original nature in service to each situation as it arises? Just settling into each moment and offering there what is called for for the joy of doing it and the satisfaction/delight of having done it? Drawing the lines that need to be drawn, and "letting the chips fall as they may"? When is the last time joy, satisfaction and delight been a part of your life experience? Stop insisting that things be done to please you, and start being pleased to do what needs to be done, situation by situation-- understanding that saying "No" may well be exactly what needs to be done, and be pleased to say "No" whenever that would be appropriate to the occasion, in ways appropriate to the occasion.