Winning for me comes down to being right about what needs to be done in each situation as it arises and doing it with the resourses available in the situation and in our own original nature. This doesn't mean we will win the game, particularly if the other team is better at doing this than we are, but. If we do it consistently/dependably, we will win our share of the games over time. And the more we do it, the better we get at doing it, and nobody will look forward to playing us. To be right about what needs to be done, we have to be able to approach each situation, and each moment within the situation, from the vantage point of the right kind of emptiness, the right kind of stillness, and the right kind of silence, which will result in clarity, or the right kind of seeing. The difference between needing/having to win, trying to win and doing what it takes to win, is the difference between air balls, rim shots, and swishes (To use a basketball metaphor). Being empty of needing/having/trying is the right kind of emptiness. The right kind of stillness and the right kind of silence are about reducing/diminishing the complexity and noise, generated externally and internally, to the point of being able to see and hear what is happening and to know what needs to be done in response, and allowing the innate instincts and intuition of our original nature--our natural ability-- to respond spontaneously to the moment and what is available there in doing what needs to be done. This is the formula for success-- how well we are able to execute it comes down to awareness and practice, practice, practice. And practicing awareness is a part of practice.
Having what it takes to live on life's terms is a good thing to have. Living to willfully force our way on life/through life is not going to produce what we think. Live to see what is called for in light of what is happening and what needs to be done about it from the standpoint of the situation, and not our desire for the situation. What does the good of the situation as a whole require? (Generally always, the answer is "Our cooperation") Do that! In every situation as it arises! The Path winds through every situation that comes our way. Stay on the path. With the right kind of emptiness (No agenda, no opinion), the right kind of stillness (Just looking, just seeing), and the right kind of silence (Just listening, just hearing), leading to the right kind of clarity and the right kind of action. Situation by situation all day long every day.
If I could sit down with the world, I would say, "Empty yourselves of everything. No wants, no desires. No ideas, beliefs, ideology, agendas, opinions, preferences. No fear, no compulsion, no duty, no obligations. No noise, no static, no interference, no assumptions, no presumptions, no inferences, no ideas...etc. Be empty as the space between breaths. Just breathe with nothing more than the space between breaths holding things together for you. And notice how you are still you. You do not need all the stuff you carry with you to be you. You can't help being you. There is more to you than all the stuff you carry with you. In the space between breaths, you are just as you are. Stay there. Be that. You and your original nature, your natural self, without any of the culturally induced ways of being, the organic you-- the original you, 'the face that was yours before you were born.' Be that. Breathing. Live from there. Live from the center of the space between breaths. Wait in the space between breaths for something to arise in the silence, to emerge from the silence-- do not think it up, wait receptively for it to appear of itself on its own. Just sit/stand/walk breathing, watching, listening, waiting, empty, still, silent... Living from the space between breaths, we are guided by something beyond wanting/desiring/needing/fearing/ Thou Shalt and Thou Shalt Not. What else could there be? We owe it to ourselves to find out! Take up the practice of living from the space between breaths. And see where it goes."
We maintain our balance in the flow of life. Harmonize our original nature with our context and circumstances, and do what needs to be done in each situation as it arises. It is no more difficult or complicated than that. No agendas, no opinions. No being side-tracked, shanghaied, or hijacked. Seeing what we look at and responding appropriately day by day.