"Adjustment and accommodation, Kid. Adjustment and accommodation." That's the recurring experience of life as it is throughout our life. Life takes a lot of getting used to. We never get things the way we want things to be for long. Something is always coming along to decimate this, destroy that, knock everything over and laugh on its way out the door, with "See you again soon," and more laughter fading into the distance. We are always dealing with something we do not want in our life. We live between how things are and how we want things to be all the way along the way. If we can come to terms with that-- adjust and accommodate ourselves to that-- we have it made, as much as we can have it made, in a world where nothing good lasts for long, and the bad is always knocking on our door, and walking out, laughing. We become accomplished in adjustment and accommodation, or not. Everything is better with the right response. Nothing is so bad that the we way we respond to it can't help. We will never arrange our life like we like it for long. We can perfect our response to what we don't like to the point where what we don't like is just another turn in the road. And every turn in the road is an opportunity to practice our response to turns in the road. The old story about "The Lost Horse Returns" (Googleit) is a helpful reminder of the kind of practice that puts everything in its place even when everything is scattered and shattered. If nothing good lasts, nothing bad lasts either. Everything is coming or going. The trick is to let go what's going, and let come what's coming. And to respond to everything in ways appropriate to the occasion. Amen! May it be so!
What we have done with what has happened to us is not as important as what we are doing and what we will do with what has happened to us. We are amassing experience all along the way-- which may, or may not, become a source of guidance and direction through what remains of our life. Too often, 25, or 50, or 75 years of experience is actually one year of experience repeated 25, or 50, or 75 times. My maternal grandfather was "all grown up" when he was 25, and he lived 84 years. It happens all of the time. Mindful awareness and self-transparency are essential companions along the way. Experience is a treasure-trove of knowledge to be examined and explored as a source of endless reflection leading to new realizations and different ways of living. So don't allow one "mistake"-- or a life full of mistakes-- lock you into a pattern of one mistake after another. Take up the practice of sitting with your life, looking for what lessons you have learned, and what lessons you have missed that can be redeemed/reinterpreted and applied to new ways of responding to similar situations in your present and future. We are always in the process of redeeming our past by how we respond to our present and live in our future. But. Realization requires reflection, acknowledgement and reconciliation in order to produce a future that is a better place to be than our past has ever been.