What needs to happen in a situation becomes apparent in time. If we wait too long to be sure, however, it becomes what should have happened there. The time to act is a tight window, and we have to be attentive in an interested kind of way, and not in a panic-driven, obsessive/compulsive kind of way. It is like having an interest, but not having anything at stake, in what needs to happen. I think of it in terms of fishing, like I used to do as a child, with a cane pole, a cork, and a hook with a worm on it. You have an interest, but you don't have a pressing need. The time to set the hook depends entirely upon the fish. So it is with determining what needs to be done in a situation. We have to wait to see, but it is actually a matter, not of seeing, but of sensing. We put ourselves in neutral, in a very present and much attentive posture, and watch to see what we do and when, and how, we do it, without being the one to tell ourselves what to do when and how. We don't know what to do when or how. We are waiting on "the fish" to strike-- for the time to be at hand. And time for what, we do not know for what, but are waiting to see, watching, in an alert and interested way, for what we do, when and how. It is all very magical/mystical, how the right action, at the right time in the right way happens of itself exactly as it needs to through no effort of our own, though we are very much a willing participant in the making of a miracle. This is the old Taoist idea of Wu-Wei, of doing without meaning or intending, but acting when the time is right with someone, or something, else doing the directing and the acting. We can't explain it, we can only experience it, by being present and interested, and waiting for the fish to take the cork under.
Carl Jung said, "There is so much trouble in the world because people don't have a chance to tell their story," or words to that effect. Everybody talks. Nobody listens. So people quit talking and start shooting up schools. Telling our story, saying what we have to say, is such an intimate, vulnerable, way of exposing ourselves and risking ridicule and humiliation that few of us are willing to open our mouths. Journals are a worthy substitute, but. How many of the earth's population have access to paper and something to write with-- or know how to write? Collectively, we have so little of what we need to do what needs to be done, that it is a wonder that any of us keep going. And most of us do not go well into the next moment and all of those following. Because we do not get to tell our story. We don't even know we have a story. People stop caring after a very short while of being ignored, and social media is what it is because of the apparent platform for getting attention and finding acceptance-- except that the reality can be rejection and exclusion, or a sad form of "Hey, Look At Me Now!" that says nothing about who we are, or what our story actually is. The absence of caring because we lack being cared for is epidemic. Not caring is not caring what we do, or what happens if we do it. Because no one ever said, "Hello in there--hello. How is it with you today?" Notice someone today. Ask them how it's going. See where it goes.
First, we empty ourselves, then we open ourselves to the silence. Emptying ourselves is becoming aware of our fullness-- of all that fills us, that goes on within us, non-stop all the time. Stop and listen to, look at, what is there, all of the time, without letting up or slowing down. The feelings, the moods, the words... and then become aware of what is going on in your body. How is your body reacting/responding to your situation-in-life? What does it feel like in your body? Where does your body carry its tension? When does your body ever relax? Where is the tightness? Where is the pain? How does your body "talk" to you? How often do you listen? And then, there are your dreams-- your daytime fantasies and your nighttime dreams. What are they? What are they saying? How do you understand them? When do you ever listen to them? Spend time being aware of all of this. How do you bear it all? How can you stand up under it? How do you release the pent-up power of your inner world? Awareness is release. Jon Kabat-Zinn's YouTube videos (The shortest ones first) are an excellent resource for developing awareness and managing the whirling impact of the world within. Start there. And learn to let it go, to be empty of it, by "tucking it into your awareness," and "returning to your breathing," and "listening between breaths" to nothing at all. That "nothing at all" is what emptiness sounds like. Keep practicing being empty until you can maintain "nothing at all" for two breaths, then three... When you are able to be empty, open yourself to the silence, and sit still, be quiet. And pay attention to what arises in the silence, particularly to what resonates with you, catches your eye, calls your name, just by emerging appearing, arising, occurring to you unbidden from within the silence, “of itself” as a gift to you from the silence. Look closer there. See where it goes. The right kind of silence and the right kind of emptiness are the keys to the right kind of response to the context and circumstances of our life. And that transforms everything over time.