We see things the way we see things. And. Everything hinges/turns/flows from/falls out around how we see things. Nothing is more important than being right about the way we see things. That being the case-- and who could see it any other way-- you would think we would take the pains required to see things as they are. In other words, to see the things we look at as scientists would see them and not as religious fanatics would see them. That would mean stepping back from the way we see things to see ourselves seeing things. And make inquiries. Why do we see things the way we see them and not some other way instead? Where does the way we see things come from? How many other ways of seeing things can we imagine? How do we know the way we see things is the right way to see things? Who would be proud of us for the way we see things? Who would be disappointed in us for the way we see things? Who are we trying to please/displease by the way we see things? Where do we get our ideas about the way we ought to see things? Who are the authorities we respect when it comes to how to see things? Other than taking their word for it, how could we determine whether the way we see things is the right way to see them? What standards/principles govern the way we see things? What experiments can we devise to test the validity of the way we see things? How can we determine if we know what we are doing, seeing things the way we see things? What are we afraid of when it comes to examining the way we see things? What are the questions we are afraid to ask about the way we see things? What are the questions we refuse to ask? How do we know that we know what we are talking about? Who says that the way we see things is the right way to see things? Who says that the way we see things is the wrong way to see things? How do we know who is right? What are we taking for granted when it comes to the way we see things? What are we assuming to be so? What justifies us in seeing the way we do? What calls us into question? What does how we see things say about what is most important to us? How do we know that ought to be important? Who says so? Who says not-so? What makes us think they know, or don't know, what they are talking about? Etc. and so forth all the way to the bottom of the matter.
What feeds your soul? What makes your little heart sing? What brings you to life? What nurtures you, nourishes you, restores you, centers you, grounds you, balances you, harmonizes you, reconnects you to you? Make it your practice to incorporate the things that do these things into your life on a regular basis. You are responsible for your own self-care. We neglect ourselves to our own demise. It is like dying a slow death by our own hand. Whose side are you on? Would anyone ever guess that you are on your own side by the way you treat you? You are your only hope. You are the guardian of your own Inner Guide. Follow the guidance of the One Who Knows Within! And start doing the things that bring you to life! Regularly! Dependably! Relentlessly!
How confident are you of living out of your own center? How courageous are you in living out of your own center? When your center comes under attack, how do you defend it? When you come under attack, how conscious are you of retreating to your center? Your center is your adamantine core. Your immovable, unassailable rock. Your unshakable foundation. Do you have any idea of what I am talking about? Are you blown about, unsure of yourself, easily talked into and out of anything? With no north star to guide you, and no gyroscope to hold you on course? Second-guessing and self-doubting leading the way? If so, it is time to find your center. Your center is an extension of the Source, with your own particular blend of tastes/interests/peculiarities/ proclivities/idiosyncrasies/gifts/ ways/characteristics/etc. forming the "I am" that grounds you and sets you apart from everyone else. You are alike everyone else in that we all stem from the Source, and we are different from everyone else in that we are a unique combination of traits unlike anyone who has ever been or will be. And the idea that we should abandon who we are and be identical to everyone else is anathema. Our place is to BE who we are in relationship with everyone else, in the old, "Define yourself while staying in touch" kind of way. Tricky. And it all hangs on our knowing and living out of our center. Our center is the home of our Original Nature and our Natural Rhythms. Joseph Campbell said, "We know when we are on the beam and when we are off of it." "The beam" here is a metaphor for our center. We know when we are centered, balanced and in harmony with ourselves, and when we are not. We have to know what we know. Pay attention. Be aware. And consciously allow our action to flow from our center by observing ourselves in action, and checking to see if the origin of what we are doing-- how we are living-- is flowing unimpeded from our center, or if it is being directed by some other source (Like the desire to be pleasing, or the fear of being abandoned), and doing the work of coming to terms with our vulnerabilities by being aware of them, and of living out of our center by being aware of it. Awareness is the solution of all of our problems today and every day. Perhaps this would be a good time for me to mention the Jon Kabat-Zinn YouTube videos (The shortest ones first) on Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction. It is difficult to live out of our center without being aware of what we are doing. Jon Kabat-Zinn is the awareness guru. Start with him.