Jon Kabat-Zinn (And if you haven't watched his YouTube Videos on Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction-- the shortest ones first-- what exactly are you waiting for?) said that mindfulness and meditation are like riding a bicycle. When you are learning to ride a bicycle, you think about riding the bicycle. When you learn to ride a bicycle, you quit thinking about it. The same thing applies to playing third base, hitting a curve ball (or throwing one), cooking pizza or an apple pie, and hitting high C. We think about it until we get it, and then we stop thinking about it. Always thinking about it, always thinking about how we aren't doing it, and when are we going to start doing it, and who is doing it better than we are, and why we aren't good at anything... gets in the way of doing it. Practice until we get it, then stop thinking about it, and do it. It's like learning to walk.
Are you at peace with your circumstances? Are you at-one with yourself? Balance and harmony, Kid! Balance and harmony! We can gauge how well its working by our degree of balance and harmony, spirit, vitality and life. When the Clashing Rocks and Heaving Seas disturb our inner rhythm and flow, our outer life-in-the-world will be at hell's gate. We think we have to get outer all calm and peaceful in order to bring our inner world into tranquil accord. That is to have things backwards in a cart-before-the-horse kind of way. First inner, then outer. It's the old story of the Taoist Master and the Drought. The people of the drought-plagued district asked her to come and bring the rain. She arrived and shut herself into a hut in the village and three days later it rained. Asked how she did it, she replied, "When I arrived, I found things to be out of accord with the Tao and in complete disarray. So, I closed myself off from the village, and sought to make my peace with the situation, and to restore my own harmony with the Tao. And then, the rains came."