
It starts with "Yes" and "No," and being right about when to say what, and flows from there through all of the circumstances of life to form a reliable identity and establish our individuality, shaped by our original nature and the innate virtues/specialties that are with us, and are us, from birth. When Jesus said, "Let your 'Yes' be yes, and your 'No' be no," he was talking about the importance of speaking clearly from the heart about matters we know we are right to say "Yes" to or "No" to. It is important to know "Yes" and "No," without holding back to see where the advantage lies, and which gives us the best chance at having our way and getting what we want. Wanting complicates "Right" and "Wrong." If we have a stake in the outcome, we might well say "Yes," when "No" was clearly the right way to go, or say "No" when "Yes" was our body's preferred response except that our mind gets in the way, over-riding the body's signals (again), and creating circumstances we regret for the rest of time. "If only we had known," we say, overlooking the truth that we could have easily known if we had taken the time to listen to our body's signals. "Creating a space" to be empty of thoughts and emotions, "like the place between breaths," and open to the stillness and the silence, waiting to see/hear/feel what arises within as an unmistakable message from our core regarding "Yes" or "No." But fear and desire get in the way (again), and "For want of a 'Yes' an opportunity was lost," or vice versa with a "No," and here we are. Not looking, not listening, not knowing but always wishing that we had looked, and listened, and known. When to say "Yes," and when to say "No." Which is what life is all about-- being right about when to say what.
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This makes me think of a poem by William Stafford called “A Ritual to Read to Each Other.” lI hope you can find it online.
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Thank you for introducing me to the poetry of William Stafford. His poems touch me in the same way Mary Oliver’s do.
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Found it. Reaffirming again that people who know, know the same things. Among them being “Know yourself and live transparent to who you are, trusting that to be ‘Transparent to transcendence.'” Being right about what to say “Yes” to and what to say “No” to all the way. Which makes yes and no an individual, personal, matter, and not something that can be decreed by a god from on high, or a king on some throne. My yes can be your no all around the circle without being stymied by that, paralyzed, or just put out. Laughter saves us all, with yes and no dancing merrily through the night. “Darkness within darkness–the gateway to mystery!”
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