The easiest thing in the world is thinking it is about one thing when it is about another. Clarity is the foundation of a life worth living. And fooling ourselves, no--telling ourselves what we want to hear, which amounts to the same thing-- is what we do best. Truth and clarity interfere with having our way and getting what we want. So, the first thing is getting our way and what we want out of the way entirely. Practice living without having a way, without getting what you want. Live with only what needs to be done here/now in mind. From one here/now to the next one. Truth and clarity are grounded in/on what is important. Everything falls into place around that. Knowing what is important and being right about it are superpowers, directing your life, guiding your living. How important are the things you declare to be important? We can think our heart is in things that don't matter at all. This is called fooling ourselves. The clarifying question is: How wholeheartedly do we live in the service of things we tell ourselves our heart is in? Heart shows up in living wholeheartedly. How often can that be said about what we are doing? Examine your life from the standpoint of wholeheartedliness. How much of what you do do you do wholeheartedly? Enthusiastically? Energetically? Joyfully? Those are the important things. The remainder are pretenders to the title. Shuck them like you would an ear of corn. And live like you mean it with the things that matter most.