Anybody who is having a time of it is failing to manage their conflicts/contradictions, and it has gotten the best of them. Happens all of the time. Everywhere. You'd think we would do a better job of instructing people in the way of conflict/contradiction management. We send them to jail or therapy, and go right on with our lives, strung out as we are between mutually exclusive options, and equally unacceptable choices, with nowhere to turn except drugs/sex/alcohol/therapy/jail/suicide. All because we won't grow up, look our life in the eye, say, "This isn't getting it done!" and do what needs to be done about it. We think we are "just fine" because we are no worse than anyone else we know, and aren't much further into drugs/sex/alcohol/etc. than they are. Jesus and the Buddha knew what I'm talking about, and made no headway in resolving the situation. Jesus left saying, "The harvest is plentiful, and the laborers are few." It remains so today, even more-so. Without a fix in sight. The drugs have gotten better, and the sex and alcohol are more plentiful, with therapy/jail/suicide being up, up, up all the time. Therapy is my biggest disappointment. Therapists can't handle their own conflicts/contradictions, or the disparity between how things are and how things need to be, and are as much into drugs/sex/alcohol as any other segment of any other population. Jesus and the Buddha got out just in time. Leaving us to wonder what to do, with little in the way of options beyond managing our own conflicts/contradictions as best we can, and bemoaning our ineptitude in helping others with theirs. It comes down to growing up and doing things we don't want to do in the service of what needs to be done, when/where/how they need to be done, and putting incessant, unrelenting, constant and eternal wanting in its place, which is out the door and into the far reaches of the wasteland-- and then take up the daily discipline of reducing/avoiding noise/complexity/drama and embracing/practicing emptiness/stillness/silence, and doing what needs to be done in each situation as it arises throughout the time left for living.