"Why did this happen to me?" "Why does this always happen to me?" "Why do things like this happen?" We ask these questions as though if "these things" have a cause or a reason, we could say, "Oh, okay," and live happily ever after. In possession of the best reason in all the world, we would still be outdone, we would still protest, we would still be miffed, and miss again the one thing "things like this" offer us-- an opportunity to turn the light around, shift our point of view, change our perspective. Nothing happens in order to set up something else happening that will make whatever happened be just fine. Life is not a game board, and we are not pieces being moved about by invisible hands in order to realize a great win at the end of the game. Things happen because circumstances are such that they are naturally called forth by the time and place of their occurrence. No purpose. No reason. Just "things like this happen all the time." Don't take it personally, respond to it appropriately by working with your perspective, your point of view, your way of seeing and assessing reality, your practice of making meaning of daily events. The meaning of everything that happens to us is what we do in response. How we respond, and how our response patterns change over time, is the foundation of our maturation, of our growing up. If we respond to similar events in the same way, year after year, we are not maturing. We are not changing for the better. We are not learning anything from our experience that will enable us to live better in response to future experiences. We are wasting our time.