Everything depends upon our squaring ourselves up with our sitz im leben, our "setting in life," the context and circumstances of our existence, day-to-day, moment-to-moment, in a "Here we are, now what?" kind of way. This is it! What are we going to do about it? What is called for? What is required? What is being asked/demanded of us (That we do not want to have anything to do with)? How well we do that-- how well we accommodate ourselves to our place in life-- tells the tale. There is what we want to do, and there is what is ours to do, and the trick is to do what is ours to do as though we want to do it. It helps to have "another life," an escape/oasis that we can turn to from time to time in which we do exactly what we want to do, what is truly "our thing" to do, and serves to balance out all the things we have to do that are "not us" at all. Most of us have to walk two paths at the same time in order to be reasonably sane and healthy (With health understood to be "ease of functioning") throughout our life. The most common/typical escape/outlet for people worldwide throughout the ages have been sex/drugs/alcohol/money, not necessarily in that order. What do we think about to keep ourselves from thinking about the things we most do not want to think about? The closer that comes to truly being an extension/reflection of our essential nature and our innate virtues/character, the more whole and healthy we will be. The less we live to truly serve ourselves, by doing what expresses/exhibits what is deepest/truest/best about us, the more depressed and lifeless we will become to the point of being an empty body going through the motions of life with nothing alive about us. We save ourselves by doing things that are meaningful to us with all our heart/mind/soul/spirit, as often as possible, wherever we can, all our life long. "It's never too late to start all over." "Anything can happen if we let it." "Our future is up to us." Mary Poppins-esque, Chinese Fortune Cookie Psychology, comes to our rescue time and time again. If we let it.