Bear the pain of life's disappointments, betrayals and tragic turns with sincerity and integrity, living out of your original nature and innate virtues, doing your best to make the best of it all, anyway, nevertheless, even so, no matter what. And, when it is done, go to meet your death the same way you met your life, with sincerity and integrity and all the rest. Because that is who we are, and that is how we do things-- the way they need to be done, in each situation as it arises. And no one can do better than that.
Be right about what needs to be done and do it. In each situation as it arises. That is all there is to it. Without thought of gain or reward. With nothing in it for you but the joy of doing it and the satisfaction of having done it. Aligned with the gifts/shtick/daemon/etc. of your original nature and the innate virtues that are yours from birth. Being true to yourself in this way, and your heart in what you are doing. Bringing yourself forth into your life within the here/now of your living. How far are you from living this way day by day? Live to narrow the gap day by day.
We reconcile ourselves with our life and with our lot in life in a "Here it is, this is it for now, and I'll make the best of it all day long today" kind of way. Every day. We grow up by doing what needs to be done, what needs us to do it, where, when and how it needs to be done, no matter what-- whether we feel like it or not, whether we are in the mood for it or not, whether we want to or not-- here/now, true to our original nature and the innate virtues that are ours from birth, every day. With fealty, liege loyalty and filial devotion every day. This is the dharma/duty of human beings. We are not fully human beings until we act like human beings here/now, every day.