More for them is not less for you, for me, for us. We have the idea that they are out to get us, when we are the ones who have gotten them, and we are sure they will do the same to us as we have done to them if we let our guard down and give them a chance. We are the eternal victim in our own mind. Always behind the 8-ball. Never getting a break. Poor, poor us. No one is ever on our side. No one ever cares about us. We'll show them. They will be sorry they ever messed with us. Our bleak story is a sorry perspective. Our perspective is the sorriest thing about us. We would be new people with a different perspective. Why do we never think about starting with our perspective? With it being our perspective instead of "how things are"? All it ever takes is turning the light around. Turning the light around is as simple as being aware of our perspective and flipping it. If you are going to practice anything, practice that. I don't care who you are. The only thing wrong with you is your perspective. Flip that and you have it made.
Everybody's looking for it. When they find it, they look for the payoff. Finding no payoff, they look for it with a payoff. They would be wise to settle in with it and let the payoff go. Wisdom is not the strong point of the species. That would be more on the order of willful, determined, stupidity. Insisting on a payoff commensurate with our idea of a payoff constitutes willful, determined, stupidity. Wanting more than we have any right to expect is violating the entire notions of lines and drawing them in ways appropriate to the occasion. People who do not know where to draw the line, or refuse to draw it, and live without lines are fine examples of people who do not know where to draw the line, or refuse to draw it, and live without lines. They are legion. Slack-jawed, blank-eyed, looking for the jackpot, dissatisfied and inconsolable, trying to play their cards right and have it made. Having it made and knowing when you have it made are not the same thing. Finding it and letting it be enough is having it made. Wanting more than that is not knowing when you have it made. The price of having it made is knowing when you have it made and letting that be enough. It is rarely enough. When you find it let that be the payoff and stop looking for a payoff. Live to know good-enough when you find it. And draw the line.
Rather than striving to order, control, direct our life, we might opt for exploring what is called for and seeing where it goes. In any situation-- in any age-- at any point in time and range of the times, something is called for and something is not called for. The art of living is knowing what is called for here/now and treating that with fealty, liege loyalty, and filial devotion in doing it, when, where and how it needs to be done, and allowing that alone to lead us along the way. The path of doing what is called for one situation at a time creates its own momentum, direction, meaning and purpose, based solely on our sense of what is needed, our feel for what is right. We have to trust ourselves to more than the eye can see and more than the mind can understand in finding the way through the maze of choices and possibilities, options and opportunities. Emptiness, stillness and silence are fine traveling companions. Innocence, integrity, sincerity and spontaneity are all the weapons/tools we need. Our original nature and innate virtues are reliable guides through the darkness that is "the cradle of light" (Rumi). Energy, spirit, vitality and life are hallmarks of the way. Leaving only courage, grit, determination, resiliency, resolve and perseverance as our contribution to the task that is always at hand: Seeing, hearing, knowing, feeling, trusting, doing, being.