Our problems disappear when we change our mind about them. Our problems are rarely as big as the problems we make them out to be. All of our suffering is self-imposed. Pain can be real and we can respond to it in ways that make it worse or better. The power of the response goes unrecognized much of the time. "This is the way things are. What can I do about it that increases or lessens its severity?" Is a great way to start in dealing with the way things are. The problem/the pain is exacerbated when all of the things we could do to lessen the impact of the problem/pain are unavailable to us because the system is broken. Maybe the emergency rooms are all closed. Maybe the doctors and nurses are on strike. Maybe the hospitals are filled to over flowing. Etc., like that. In the Uvalde elementary school massacre, the children and their parents were failed by the systems that should have protected them. The shooter had access to a weapon. The shooter had access to the school. The shooter had access to the classroom. The First Responders who were police did not respond. The children and their parents were helpless. This is a worst case scenario in terms of reducing the impact of pain. The parents and survivors will never out-grow having been failed, and must bear forever the anguish/agony of that failure. It is too much to bear alone. We need a wailing wall. 10,000 wailing walls. Places the community, which is the entire country/world, can gather to wail far into the night, each night. When the people who promise to protect us-- who are charged with protecting us-- do not protect us, where do we turn then? There is only the wailing wall, and "the sound of Rachel weeping for her children, and she cannot be consoled, for she has lost them."
"Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, 'This is the way; walk in it.'" (Isaiah 30:21) What determines our ability to be right about the path before us, no matter if we "turn to the right or to the left" is the rightness of our being in relationship with ourselves and with the Tao, with The Way through our life in the world. Right being is right seeing is right knowing is right doing. The opening few lines of the Tao Te Ching have been interpreted by Martin Palmer as saying, "The path that can be discerned as a path, is not a reliable path." To find the reliable path, we have to be aligned with ourselves and in accord with the Tao, so that we are seeing, hearing, knowing what's what and what needs to be done in response, and doing it at the right time, in the right place, in the right way, no matter what, without anything in it for us beyond the joy of doing it and the satisfaction of having done it. The trick with knowing The Way when we see it is knowing what we know as opposed to what we think, what we hope, what we believe, what we wish, what we want. Be empty of all of that. Be empty of everything. Be empty like the space between breaths. And wait for what arises unbidden within as a sense, an awareness, an urge, a leaning, a tug, a nudge etc., that you know is the way, right here, right now. We do not think our way to The Way. We simply know it when we see it. If you don't know it. Don't go. If everybody else is telling you it is the way. If anybody else is telling you it is the way. Empty yourself of all of that. "The way that can be discerned as The Way is not a reliable way." What do you say? What do you know without knowing how you know? Trust that. Until it becomes obvious that you do not know what you are doing. Then change your mind about what you think you know, and go back to the process of knowing what you know, listening, looking, waiting, empty of everything, until something stirs to life within, suggesting the way. Follow it until it becomes obvious that you do not know what you are doing... like that, forever.
There are no techniques, gimmicks, tricks, strategies, etc. to get what you want and keep the mojo working forever. There is no mojo. There is only seeing what's what, and knowing what needs to be done about it, when, where, and how it needs to be done, in light of the good of the situation as it arises, and doing it, for the joy of doing it and the satisfaction of having done it, situation by situation in the time left for living. Thinking there is a God and you can get God on your side by doing what makes God happy with you is not the same as realizing it is all a mystery and seeking to live in accord with the mystery no matter what it may mean for you personally, by seeing/knowing/doing what needs to be done, when, where and how it needs to be done throughout the time left for living. Putting ourselves in the service of the mystery, no matter what, shifts the focus from getting to seeing/knowing/doing what needs to be done, anyway, nevertheless, even so, no matter what. And that changes everything. For the better. But, maybe not your better. Jesus was crucified, you know, and he tells us to take up our own cross and follow him as he goes to his death, so be ready for that.