We cannot mature without changing the way we live our life. That is why we are awash in immaturity everywhere we look. No one wants anything to be different about their life ever (Or, everybody wishes their life were different, with nothing changing). Hanging on, hanging on, not letting anything go. How is that for terminal immaturity? I don't know what we are going to do. Maturation changes our relationship with ourselves, other people and our life. In dramatic ways. And it is past time for that to happen throughout this country, and the world. Nothing changes until that does. And that's asking too much.
What has seen you through all of your false starts, missed opportunities, wrong turns, dead ends, lost causes, bad choices, dismal showings, etc. up to now? What has kept you afloat? Why are you still here? What has been your foundation, your guide? What can you rely on, count on, depend on about you? What is your ace in the hole? What is (are) your true trait (traits) that keeps shining through it all? What is it about you that won't let you go? What are the constants that keep showing up and coming to your aid? That are diligent and faithful to your cause? That are your best virtues? Sit down with a cup of coffee and your cookie of choice, or glass of wine and a suitable munchie, and have a party inviting them all to join you for a toast of appreciation and gratitude. Sink into the goodness of their company, and tell them what they mean to you, and listen to what they have to say. Seriously. We have to treat right what has been treating us right all this time. And listen to their guidance. The rest of the way.
The three adjustments are: No Expectations. No Agenda. No Opinions. Which lead to and flow from the three tools: The right kind of emptiness, the right kind of stillness, the right kind of silence. Which incorporate the two sources: Our original nature. The Virtues that come with us from the womb. In conjunction with the two graces: Sincerity. Integrity. All of which combine to provide us with all that is needed to find what we need to do what needs to be done when, where and how it needs to be done, in each situation as it arises no matter what all our life long. Which is all it takes, and it is well within our reach. Why does it exceed our grasp?