Judas took the revelation of Jesus of Nazareth-- the stone that the builders reject which was in fact the chief cornerstone, and we toss it into the pile of rubble to be used for ballast for ships with not enough cargo for stable passage back home-- Judas took the Word of God Made Flesh and traded it for thirty pieces of silver, and hung himself when he realized what he did. And we are still ignoring the Word Made Flesh in favor of the wonderful old pastimes of the ages, sex, drugs and alcohol, greed and gluttony and passing a good time before time sweeps it all away. Missing the point, which is living a life worth the effort. Because we have no idea where we might find one of those. They come right out of our own imagination. Right out of our own heart and soul. Ready to be found by anyone willing to empty themselves of all distractions, fear, desire, worry, anxiety, guilt, shame, suffering, etc. and wait in the stillness and the silence for something to stir to life within, arising, emerging, appearing with a call to life-- not the life of our dreams, but the life that is ours to live if we have the resolve of Ulysses who said in the Odyssey, "I will stay with it and endure! And when the heaving sea has shaken my raft to pieces, then I will swim!" Or, will we put it off with "Not now. Maybe tomorrow. Or next week. Some other time. Maybe one day. Soon."?
It takes a "We" to make an "I." We think "It takes two "I's" to make a "We." As though any two "I's" will do. If it isn't the right two "I's," it will never make a "We." And it will never make an "I" either, no matter how many babies it produces. In order for two "I's" to be right for a "We," each "I" has to be mutually accommodating. And if one "I" can't manage that, the other "I" has to accommodate its failure to be accommodated, and still make being with it a really good place to be. In order for one "I" to be able to do the work of two "I's," it has to be that wheel turning out of its own center that Nietzsche talked about being the goal/essence of maturity. To do that, that "I" must be incredibly gifted from the start in seeing what is needed on all levels and doing what is called for in each situation as it arises. That's an Old Soul from birth for you, and there aren't many of them around. There aren't many of the right kind of "We's" around, either. Mostly, we are a collection of "Wannabe-I's" drifting lost and alone through the Wasteland, packing together in a collective "Wannabe-We," seeking what they need to be a Self, snarly and pissy, woebegone and depressed, because they don't have the right combination of possibilities for it to happen. Nails the culture pretty well, I must say. What to do about it is what matters most. How does an "I" successfully self-emerge? Without an adequate "We" to give it birth? By learning and applying the trick of "Adequate We-ness." "Adequate We-ness" is a communal affair where "Insufficient-I's" come together with "Sufficient-I's" to form a community devoted to providing an environment conducive to the self-development of its members. We grow each other up by being a safe place for each other to be while we consciously experience/explore the agony of self-emergence. AA can be this kind of place. Some religious organizations can do it. Maybe a bridge club or a poker group can manage it. We are looking for the right kind of family substitute-- the right kind of artificial "We"-- to create, sustain, maintain and direct the development of the right kind of "I." And, whether natural or artificial, the right kind of "We" that is capable of producing the right kind of "I" has to make the Gateless Gate the essential feature of what it has to offer.
The work of being human is the work of maintaining the balance and harmony between two worlds, the conscious world of visible, apparent, reality, and the world we are unconscious of, the world of metaphor, mystery, symbol, insight and knowing. We know more than we know we know. And where that comes from, and how we know it is Mystery dancing before us, winking and laughing, inviting us to hear the music and join in the dance. The work of being human is dancing with two worlds perfectly balanced and harmonious, laughing all the way. Carl Jung called this "the Mysterium Coniunctionis." The mysterious conjunction, the mysterious contradiction, the mysterious dichotomy, paradox, contrary, polarity, yin/yang that has to be recognized, embraced, accepted and worked out-- day by day, moment by moment, in each situation as it arises, all our life long. We take up the task by recognizing the obligation, knowing the difference between the worlds and stepping (metaphorically) into the space between them, and making a home for ourselves between the worlds to which we belong, and in which we "live and move and have our being." Doing so consciously makes balance and harmony possible. Laughter lightens our load and enables the dance to become a regular part of our life "between the worlds."