It is difficult to progress without digressing or regressing at the same time. Things balance out that way, so that the amount of function/dysfunction remains the same over time. There is something about balance and harmony, synchronization, stability, equilibrium, homeostasis that everything in the cosmos likes a lot. Everything is trying to reach a steady state of being. It is called death. On every level. The way of life is the way of rocking boats, making waves, shaking things up, stirring things up, turning things over, introducing unconventionality, asking questions that beg to be asked, saying all of the things that cry out to be said, exploring, making inquiries, investigating, poking, prodding, nosing around, movement, movement, movement. "Get busy living, or get busy dying" (Red Redding). We create a vital environment when we seek to balance opposites without remaining balanced. We do this by seeking tension, producing tension, providing tension, by saying/asking/doing the right things in the right place, at the right time, in the right way. By living sincerely, spontaneously, extemporaneously, naturally, from the heart in each situation as it arises, by being savvy without being clever, or conniving, or conning, or controlling, with no end in mind, no agendas in hand, no purpose beyond doing what is called for in way appropriate to the occasion, even if that is inappropriate to every occasion-- especially if that is inappropriate to every occasion-- by "getting in there and doing our thing, without worrying about the outcome." Living innocently, transparently, with a pure, gentle and noble heart, moment-by-moment, day-by-day, all our life long.
We live best out of a state of openness to the moment of our living, present with what is present with us, aware of ourselves being aware, seeing what we look at, knowing what we know, feeling what we feel, at one with the times and the circumstances, with nothing at stake and nothing to gain or lose, just slow dancing with the present, attuned to the music and with the flow of life, letting come what's coming, letting go what's going, letting be what is, with no agenda and no opinion, ready for anything, good for nothing, just an original, ordinary, human being. Practice that until you are one with it, in all times and places, automatically, spontaneously, naturally, all your life long.