September 19, 2021


Split Rail Fence 06/20/2012 Oil Paint Rendered — Doughton Park, Blue Ridge Parkway, North Carolina
When we fall in love with someone,
we are falling in love with
the aspects of ourselves--
our ideal self--our original self--
that we see reflected 
in the other person.

They remind us of the us 
we don't know we are.

"I see a bit of me in you,
but that's not all I love,
I love the you that lets me see
the me I know not of."

We all are narcissistic, 
in this way.

We are born seeking ourselves,
and when we find the right mirror,
we think we have found the perfect other,
and conveniently ignore all that is Not Us
about them.

And when something of that appalling truth
shines through,
we react instantly with,
"That isn't who you are!"
But, it is exactly who they are.
It isn't who WE are!

It takes a while 
to sort out who's who
and what's what
and where do we go from here.

It would help if we knew from the start
that everything that arouses/sparks/ignites
an emotional response in us--
either positive or negative--
is a mirror reflecting some aspect of us
to us,
either as "That is who I want to be/wish I were,"
or "That is who I am afraid I am and do not want to be!"

Then we sit down with the mirror
in our imagination
and commune with the truth
of our own reflection,
until we can say,
"Oh, Peter/Priscilla! THERE you are!"

And see where things go from that point,
with us, and the Other.



Roan Mountain Highlands 06/13/2012 Oil Paint Rendered — Carver’s Gap, Tennessee
Part (Perhaps the full scope) of our task
is communing with the symbols/people/places/things
that reflect us to us.

We see ourselves in everything
that catches our eye,
either positively or negatively.

Our place is to recognize that
and commune with the "Rosetta Stone,"
until it reveals to us its hidden truth
in a "Thou Art That" kind of way.

How are you like that?
How is that like you?
What are the connections?
The commonalities?

Sit in the silence 
of your imagination
with the person/place/thing
and "wait for the mud to settle
and the water to clear,"
and see what arises/appears/occurs to you
from within.

"Boom!" (As John Madden would say)
there you are.

Published by jimwdollar

I'm retired, and still finding my way--but now, I don't have to pretend that I know what I'm doing. I retired after 40.5 years as a minister in the Presbyterian Church USA, serving churches in Louisiana, Mississippi and North Carolina. I graduated from Austin Presbyterian Theological Seminary, in Austin, Texas, and Northwestern State University in Natchitoches, Louisiana. My wife, Judy, and I have three daughters and five granddaughters within about twenty minutes from where we live--and are enjoying our retirement as much as we have ever enjoyed anything.

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