I recommend that you make a mandala your personal symbol/reminder/guide for achieving and maintaining balance and harmony-- which imply and include sincerity, integrity, spirit, energy and vitality. You are familiar, surely, with the Myers-Briggs Personality Type Inventory. It is a quick reference tool for the opposites within us that need to be consciously and conscientiously maintained in a fluid state of balance and harmony, in order that we might respond to our circumstances spontaneously and appropriately in doing what needs to be done, when it needs to be done the way it needs to be done because it needs to be done in each situation as it arises. Extraversion (E) Introversion (I) Sensing (S) Intuition (N) Thinking (T) Feeling (F) Judging (J) Perceiving (P) These are categories of preferences that we all are capable of which we need to be able to call on as needed by the time and place of our living. Consciously working to balance our ability to be comfortable using either pair of opposites in each category positions us to be ready to meet whatever the day brings, confident in our ability to respond appropriately as needed-- without thinking, plotting or planning-- because we are naturally capable of living from the center of all extremes in the moment it is called for upon the field of action. This is not about getting our way, but doing what needs to be done. Being overly concerned for having our way, shifts us from the center and tilts us toward using any means necessary to get what we want. Balance and harmony go out the window, and we are left to fight it out with whatever we think will serve our purpose at the moment. Living from the center will not serve our way unless our way is to live from the center and let the outcome be the outcome. A mandala will not help accomplish our goals unless our goals are to live from the center and let the outcome be the outcome. There is living from our heart. And there is living from the will to achieve/ acquire/possess/dominate/subjugate/and succeed. First, we have to decide what is important and how to know if we are right about it being important. Then we can decide if a mandala is right for us.
If you have no affinity for mystery in your life, there is nothing I can do for you, and you are wasting your time here. There is nothing anybody can do for you, and you may as well be fitted for a casket, and lie in it waiting for it to be time for the dirt and a headstone, for all the good walking around is going to do you. You are already dead, waiting to die. That is what having no affinity for mystery is good for. "Absolutely nothing." Same as war. But, for you folks who enjoy your affinity for mystery, you are awash in all that life has to offer! Splash around in it! Relish it! Seek out the radiance and the wonder-- learn to see it everywhere, at all times! Everything reeks of mystery! Speaks of mystery! Resounds with mystery! Confounds with mystery! Learn to recognize it, embrace it, love it, dance with it, cuddle it, coddle it, laugh with it and walk with it throughout the time left for living! You will be better off for it in countless ways!
The Vision Quest, The Hero's Journey, and Coming of Age all amount to the same thing: Growing Up. We put growing up off forever. The culture encourages it. Growing up is bad for the economy, and the economy drives the culture. The value of money depends upon the flow of money. When a depression hits, the wealthiest of the wealthy thrive, but the merely wealthy and the middle class and the lower class all suffer immense loss of status and comfort, because money stopped flowing. Growing up creates a depression-like impact in that mature people don't spend money as their immature look-a-likes do. They don't need to. They have no use of the diversions money creates and sustains. Growing up is not something people stand in line to do, and it doesn't take much of a glittering alternative to hijack an entire culture into terminal immaturity for generations. Our culture has been doing it from the start. We create cultures to avoid growing up. It is what we do best. Nobody takes up a vision quest, launches themselves on the hero's journey or goes to the trouble of coming of age because they recognize it as a good idea. They do it because their life requires it and they prefer that to their drug-sex-and-alcohol-laced alternatives (or as the only option left after drugs, sex and alcohol provides them with a near-death wake-up-or-else experience). Growing up is coming to terms with what's what, in a "This is the way things are, and this is what we can do about it, and that's that" kind of way-- with one of the things we can do about it being growing up, accepting not having/getting my way and letting it be because it is being all that is left, and doing what can be done with what's left after "my way" is taken off the table. Growing up is living in ways other than our own. Everyone who grows up, grows up against their will. And does what they can with what's left. That is the vision quest, the hero's journey, and coming of age reduced to their naked truth. Good luck with your own version of the process.