In every now we have no idea of what is next. In trying to arrange what's next, we step out of the flow of the now, which is the flow of time (kairos) and place (dharma), upset the natural expression of grace, and operate as a rogue predator in the here and now of our living. Better to live aligned with ourselves and with the moment, and wait for the time to act in the service of what needs us to do it with the gifts of our original nature to serve and share, in each situation as it arises.
There are so many ways of not seeing what we are looking at, and misinterpreting what we are seeing, and being wrong about what needs to be done in response, and repeating all of the errors in judgment and behavior, in each situation that flows from each moment, that it is a wonder things are as stable as they are. We need to spend more time sitting still, being quiet, reducing reactivity, complexity and noise, and being compassionately, non-judgmentally, aware of every single thing in each moment that is now, seeing what is happening, and being right about what is called for, doing it and being aware of the next moment as it develops from this one. That would transform our life, and the world as we know it, in about 2.5 moments. Just try it. See what a difference you can make in practically no time at all, just by responding appropriately to what's happening now. Moment-by-moment.
We have to see what we look at and hear what we are listening to, and interpret it correctly. That is on us. We are on our own here. No one can tell us how to know what's what in each situation as it arises. We have to be right about what is important and what needs to be done about it, and do it, when it needs to be done, the way it needs to be done, because it needs to be done, no matter what. All our life long. I say this a lot because this is all that needs to be said. And understood. And done. And no one can do it for us. So all I can do is say it, and say it, and say it. And when you hear it with understanding, you get to say it, and say it, and say it, because that is all you can do to pass it along. You can't make anybody hear it. The idea of "making disciples" is completely ridiculous. We cannot make anyone see what they are looking at. See? We can only say what we see. And say it. And say it. And say it. While working to see better what we think we see. And do better what we think needs to be done about it. All our life long. No getting tired and quitting. We are Sisyphus, pushing his rock up the hill, following it down the hill (Or racing it to the bottom-- or hopping on and riding it down like a logger might "ride" a log), and rolling it back up the hill. We say what we have to say and do what we have to do, on and on and on and on... smiling, laughing and having a good time with it all, because, why not?
Tact is displaying just the right touch, or saying just the right word, in just the right way, at just the right time. There is no better demonstration of the Tao in action than tactfulness being exercised in the here and now of our experience. Live tactfully! Moment-by-moment in each situation as it arises. That is the sine-qua-non of a life well-lived.