Something happens and we decide what it means and respond in some way that we think is appropriate. The fulcrum lies with our interpretation and response. We control, or strongly influence, how things play out by what we do next. We lever the future into being with our response to what just happened. We must become aware of our interpretations and the actions they generate, and how that spills over into the rest of our life. The actions we are unaware of create the circumstances we call fate. The things that keep happening to us are the things we set in motion by the way we interpret and respond to what happens to us. We shoot ourselves in the foot, not knowing we are pulling the trigger.
Where does the right way of responding to our circumstances come from? How do we know it when we see it? How do we know what is right and what is wrong? Where does knowing originate? What is the source of the way that is right for us, and the way that is wrong for us? Mystery is the ground of life and being. It moves us toward this and away from that. It is the way of life for all living things. "Yes!" and "No!" are all we have to work with, and they come to us from we know not where. To live without awe and wonder is to be operationally dead.
Some things resonate with us, some things repel us-- what is the mechanism at work with either? We know less than a millionth of one percent of all there is to know. But, we act like we know everything that matters. Science is a necessary corrective on our hubris and ignorant arrogance. Science knows it doesn't know, and is always looking to see better what it thinks it sees, and to see something of what it doesn't see at all. You can't say that about religion. All religion everywhere knows all it needs to know about everything worth knowing. Ask any adherent of any religion what their deepest questions are, and you will get something cute and shallow. Questions are nowhere close to the heart of religion. Conviction taken on faith reins supreme. "Taken on faith" means "Taking someone else's word for whatever they take on faith." And "knowing" all they want to know. Mystery lies at the heart of life and being. All of the questions beg even more questions, and all of them together constitute a universe of their own infinitely larger than the physical universe which gives rise to the questions. We don't know. We live to know more than we did when we started. Based on our experience with acting on the basis of what we think we know and what the outcome was, allowing our outcomes to guide us into the questions that deepen/expand our experience, and lead to greater knowing. Like a good scientist would do.