Sit quietly and observe what happens in the silence. Just watch, listen. Without engagement-- without being hooked, kidnapped, shanghaied, carried off, with emotions aroused and looking for a fight, or a pizza, or anything in between, or beyond. If you find yourself responding to something arising, reflect on that. Ask the questions that beg to be asked, see what occurs to you in response to the questions. Allow the questions to raise, to lead to, more questions, and reflect on all that happens to the point of new realizations. You will be following hints and clues to new discoveries, and uncovering an infinite wonderland of ideas and perceptions. The silence is a doorway to worlds waiting to be explored, marvels waiting to be revealed, and more truth than can be imagined, and we are imagining it all. Look around. Everything not an original part of the natural world came out of someone's imagination. Out of someone's well of silence. Everyone would do well to be quiet more often.
We spend a lot of time between times. Like seeds lying fallow in the earth, we wait for something to happen to know what to do next. If we wait long enough, the roof will begin to leak, the dog will need to take a leak, or we will... Something will happen requiring us to do something about what happened. That's the way life works. If we don't know what to do we wait to see what we do without doing anything more than waiting it out. Just wait it out. Something will happen. Everything waits for something to happen. What we do in response will move us a bit closer to wherever we will be when we get there. Until then, we wait to see-- letting come what's coming and letting go what's going. How well we make the adjustments tells the tale.
Step back from what you want to happen, and focus on what needs to be done. What is the situation calling for? What response can you make to the situation that is the most appropriate one you can imagine? Go with that! There is nothing like wanting something inappropriate to the occasion for blocking the flow of life and interfering with the balance and harmony, spirit, energy and vitality in each situation as it arises. This swamp is an ecosystem whose needs supersede the needs of each individual species composing the ecosystem. What needs to happen does not depend upon what any individual member of the ecosystem wants to happen. Wants and needs may coincide from time to time, but, for the most part, want acquiesces to need, "and the beat goes on." When want imposes itself on need, and demands primary consideration, the beat goes to hell. Put what you want in its place, and serve what needs to be done in each situation as it comes along, and allow your life to take shape around that priority, and things will be pretty well, whether you like it or not.