Companions of The Way understand that the way back to Eden winds through the heart of Gethsemane and across the face of Golgotha, and requires them to die to their idea of how their life should be in order to be born into the realization of how their life is to be. Companions of The Way know what is important-- and are right about it in each situation as it arises. See what needs to be done and do it when it needs to be done the way it needs to be done because it needs to be done out of the gifts, specialties, daemon (sounds like "diamond"), talents, shtick, virtues, abilities, proclivities, knacks and aptitudes, etc., that comes with them from the womb-- from one situation to the next, all their life long. With compassion and grace, but without contrivance or thought of gain, benefit or advantage, Because that is who they are and that is how they do it. If you feel like this is your kind of place to be, you have all it takes to be a Companion of The Way! Welcome, and safe travels through all that lies ahead!
What would you do that you got nothing from doing it beyond the joy of doing it and the gladness/satisfaction of having done it? Find those things, and do them!
Frasier Snowden said, "The only true philosophical question is 'Where do you draw the line?'" It is the only true moral question. The only true ethical question. The only true religious question. The only true psychological question... It is the only question that matters. Where we draw the line is where we declare ourselves to be who we are. "This is where I stand. This is where if fall. This is who I am." No one can draw our lines for us, else they are not our lines. We have to draw our own lines, and in doing so, we bring ourselves forth. We define ourselves. We expose ourselves. We make ourselves known by saying/showing who we are. Every polarity, every dichotomy, every contradiction, every contrary, every opposite, every duality... forces choice upon us. We bear the tension of opposition, draw a line, work things out. Time after time all of the time. There is pushing, forcing, insisting, demanding... and there is being resilient and resolute and determined, and unrelenting. Where do the lines lie? There is being inquisitive and curious and investigative and searching, and there is being nosy and meddling and intrusive and snooping. And where do the lines lie? Opposites are everywhere, extremes are on every side, and we position ourselves somewhere between them all, on a floating scale with too much on one side and not enough on the other. Where do we stand? Where do we draw the line? How do we know what to do? How do we decide what to do? What guides our boat on its path through the sea? Sometimes we do it this way, and sometimes we do it that way, and often we make the same choice differently at different times, not knowing why we do it this way and not that way. Are we right? How do we know? Often, only time will tell. We can't put too much importance on being right, on doing it right, and have to grant ourselves room-- and permission-- to learn as we go, and hope to improve our score over time in knowing where to draw the line. It is an experiential thing, knowing where to draw the line. It is not a rational thing, a logical thing, a mechanical thing, an inorganic thing. We feel our way into doing what needs to be done. We do not think our way there. There are no recipes. No formulas. No dictums, decrees or directives. There is only what's what and what needs to be done about it, and where we draw the line is important, but we can't take it seriously. It is only a line, and we can draw it somewhere else next time.