If we had someone to listen to us, it would be easier for us to hear what we have to say. We aren't taught how to listen to ourselves, and we grow up strangers with "the other" Carl Jung was talking about when he said, "There is, in each of us, another whom we do not know." This "other" has much to offer us in terms of insight and guidance, and enabling us to look at things from all sides, listening to ourselves, and waiting for ourselves to "speak," perhaps with words that arise in our mind, or with images that appear unbeckoned, or with feelings or moods that come upon us out of nowhere. I see the other within as an aspect of our Psyche, and evidence of depths, or worlds, beyond comprehension. We are connected with more than we can know, and carry the DNA of the species packed away within. Communing with the "Collective Unconscious" (Jung's term), opens up possibilities for reflection that are as endless as they are inviting. And we would do well to acknowledge that, and take the time to explore what is "right here, right now" all the time. Practice sitting still, being quiet, and seeing, hearing, what the silence has to offer-- no thinking, just watching, listening, waiting...
I take it to be a commonplace to say we all need help with our life-- and I see that primarily as a matter of helping us to engage and rely upon the guidance and direction of the Knower who resides within. There is a catch, however. The Knower is not a Genie with magical powers waiting for us to ask in order to make our dreams come true. The Knower has a better sense than we do of the life we are best suited to live, and that life may not be what we have in mind. Our place is to collaborate with the Knower in living the best life we are capable of living in serving our original (true) nature within the conditions and circumstances that are ours to navigate. We have to grow up and put ourselves in the service of the life we are capable of living-- of the life that needs us to live it-- in a "Thy will, not mine, be done" kind of way. If we are not there, perhaps we will be while there is still light to live by. If not, well, every Knower takes its chances, and that's just how it is, for the one who came packed in with us.
We cannot order our life in ways that are pleasing to us, but, we can live in the service of what needs to happen in each situation, in light of our preferences and interests and see where it goes. The attention goes to what is called for. To what is crying out to be done. Beseeching us to do it. With what we bring to the moment. We are to life for the moment. We are to live for our life. Our life is not here to serve us. We are here to serve our life. What does our life need of us, from us? Let that be our focus. Not, what do we want from our life, but, what does our life need from us? Asked of the silence. With us waiting and watching/listening for what emerges, appears, arises, occurs to us, from the silence to beckon, call, compel us to action in its service. Perhaps, against our wishes, wants and will.